We were really good friends for years, but we drifted apart. There was no falling out but we're just not in contact anymore & we've not seen each other for six years. I am still in contact with her mum though. I've been very ill recently and she would have known this from her mum and from Facebook. Not even a get well wish. I visited her mum a few months back and she was invited to join us, but declined with a flimsy excuse, which told me all I needed to know really. I'm fine with it. We had a good friendship, but life moves on.
When it was my big birthday seven years ago she bought me a lovely present and took me out for lunch. I've just remembered tonight that it's her big birthday in a couple of weeks. I feel mean if I dont reciprocate for her big birthday; but it would feel weird asking her out to lunch and getting her a present after all these years. I don't even know her new adress so I'd have to ask her mum, or even if she's having a celebration - that's how much we have drifted apart.
Do I just leave it, send a card, or weirdly do the whole present & lunch thing?