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Was it normal to do this as a child?

108 replies

FaffingChampion · 01/11/2022 21:26

Do you remember having lessons where everyone took it in turns to read a page aloud from the same book?

If so, we’re you able to follow along at the pace of the person reading, or did you find yourself involuntarily tuning out the person reading and reading ahead at your own pace?

I’m trying to get an ADHD diagnosis and am sifting through childhood experiences trying to figure out what’s normal and what isn’t.

YABU - this is a totally typical thing for children to do
YANBU - no, I never did this or I did this and am/suspect I am neuro divergent

OP posts:
Dixiechickonhols · 01/11/2022 22:54

Read ahead. No issues. I read quickly. It was painful hope schools don’t do anymore - some girls really struggled reading even at secondary or were quiet as a mouse.

RosesAndHellebores · 01/11/2022 23:01

I don't think I ever read ahead. Why waste time doing that when i could gaze out of the window or day dream about David Essex. and crib what I needed from Brodie's Notes.

SheepDance · 01/11/2022 23:15

I would read ahead, normally the bit I would be reading... so I could practice it in my head.

Bigfishlittlefishcardboardfox · 01/11/2022 23:26

BogRollBOGOF · 01/11/2022 21:47

I just talk very fast in my head 😂
I see pictures in my head.
Reading is an interesting diversion from my head singing or chuntering away to itself.
This is why I have a bit of a MN issue. It fills my head wonderfully with constant varied stuff 😂

I don’t hear a voice when I read in my head. The information just flows in!

puddleduck234 · 01/11/2022 23:32

TimeAtTheBar · 01/11/2022 21:34

Absolutely read ahead.

Although I had a weird realisation in conversation with DH years ago; taking about why he is a slow reader and I’m a fast one. He reads in his head as though he’s reading out loud. This blew my mind. I posted here about it and it was 50/50 people who read normally 🤣 and people who say every word in their head like they’re reading aloud.

I am also one of those people who doesn’t see images in their head (aphantasia) like if you said picture a house I’d be describing the house to myself rather than seeing it if that makes sense. I think the two things are linked.

I'm sorry what? When I read a word, the word sounds in my head...... how do you read I've never heard of this?

OP, no I didn't read ahead in these sorts of classes. I struggled with keeping up and reading (diagnosed dyslexia and ADHD)

Chattycathydoll · 01/11/2022 23:38

puddleduck234 · 01/11/2022 23:32

I'm sorry what? When I read a word, the word sounds in my head...... how do you read I've never heard of this?

OP, no I didn't read ahead in these sorts of classes. I struggled with keeping up and reading (diagnosed dyslexia and ADHD)

Words don’t sound like anything in my head unless I’m reading very slowly. I just look at the sentence and the information is in my head?

Like if I was reading a sentence about a big red barn standing in a corn field, I’d just look at the sentence and know it was about the barn… I wouldn’t hear any individual words as such

DatasCat · 01/11/2022 23:53

Attempting to read Shakespeare out loud was particularly excruciating for a mixed ability class of 13-year-olds (though the crackly taped recording was scarcely any better).

Jane Austen’s prose, though beautifully crafted on the page, sounds dreadful in a modern accent, no matter who is reading.

InattentiveADHD · 01/11/2022 23:53

I have ADHD. I wouldn't be able to tune out someone else reading. ADHD is an inability to direct your attention. So you are easily distracted and can't just tune out noise that NTs may be able to. So for instance I struggle to hear in restaurants and use noise cancelling headphones to help me concentrate when there's background noise.

I did however in class get extremely frustrated by the slow readers. It felt like torture. And when it became my turn to read I'd read super fast in a pointed manner. Which i obviously got in trouble for. People with ADHD tend to be very impatient!

puddleduck234 · 01/11/2022 23:54

@Chattycathydoll honestly have no idea how you do this 😂. I find it fascinating (and sometimes upsetting that I can't do this) how most people read.

Lessofallthisunpleasantness · 01/11/2022 23:55

Oh God I remember that so painful to listen to the strugglers. I was a very keen reader as a kid so had probably already read the book. I definitely read it myself if someone else was reading it though as they would you know, be reading it 'wrong'.

Very normal behaviour to read ahead.

Topsyturvy78 · 02/11/2022 00:01

Most of us did this in English. It was so we could discuss certain parts of the book as they came up.

I often got picked for some reason. I'm not the most confident so hated it.

Readinstead · 02/11/2022 00:03

I always read ahead. I usually hated the books we had to read and when I had the lightbulb moment that just because I started a book I didn't have to finish it, it was liberating.
Like a previous poster I am unable to visualise and until that post was unaware this phenomenon had a name. Until about 10 years ago, I thought that when someone told you to see it with your mind's eye they were using a cliche/turn of phrase it never occured to me that they meant it literally. My dd says that when she reads, it is almost as good as watching a film, she knows what the characters look like, how they move, the scenery, room layout - everything. I just remember that the main character is average height with short brown hair and that the room has a green carpet and lots of furniture 🤷 We both think the other is weird 😁

puddleduck234 · 02/11/2022 00:08

Readinstead · 02/11/2022 00:03

I always read ahead. I usually hated the books we had to read and when I had the lightbulb moment that just because I started a book I didn't have to finish it, it was liberating.
Like a previous poster I am unable to visualise and until that post was unaware this phenomenon had a name. Until about 10 years ago, I thought that when someone told you to see it with your mind's eye they were using a cliche/turn of phrase it never occured to me that they meant it literally. My dd says that when she reads, it is almost as good as watching a film, she knows what the characters look like, how they move, the scenery, room layout - everything. I just remember that the main character is average height with short brown hair and that the room has a green carpet and lots of furniture 🤷 We both think the other is weird 😁

Yes I can visualise every detail. It's infuriating seeing a film adaptation get it wrong 😂

fuckfuckfuck2021 · 02/11/2022 00:09

Always read ahead still do now when the kids read to me Blush NT here.

LeMoo · 02/11/2022 00:11

No one can answer this as you use the vote to ask 3 questions!

We used to do this in school. I'm nd and always read ahead.

PastMyBestBeforeDate · 02/11/2022 00:13

I'm like your dd @Readinstead. It's why films of books are too frustrating to watch.

pinkpotatoez · 02/11/2022 00:13

Sounds normal to me, some kids were very slow readers, nervous etc

PeloFondo · 02/11/2022 00:17

Always read ahead. I don't hear the words in my head but my brain works weirdly Grin
So if I open a book, I read both pages at once, and I miss out not important words like and/the/it. People reading to me infuriates me as it's SO SLOW Blush
Takes me about an hour to read a easy going chick lit type paperback

JesusMaryAndJosephAndTheWeeDon · 02/11/2022 00:26

No one followed along at the appropriate pace. Accomplished readers read ahead as their reading pace was faster and it was more interesting. Poor readers daydreamed and didn't follow at all.

It was a pretty terrible lesson plan really.

Sailthisshipalone · 02/11/2022 00:33

i remember the teacher went around the class normally in order of seating so I would try and work out which paragraph I would get and read it first to myself before I had to read it aloud so I was prepared for any tricky words that could come up
i hated reading aloud in class!
im neurodiverse

Apileofballyhoo · 02/11/2022 00:35

I speed read and I had read everything already as I had older siblings who had had the same books. Like a pp not being able to skip the audio in training videos drives me mad. I can't bear audio books.

I can easily tune out the noise around me and read. At school I could listen and read or listen and talk/whisper. Many a teacher suddenly called on me to read because it seemed like I wasn't paying attention but I'd always know where to start reading from. I dont think I can listen to 2 things at once now, I seem to have lost that ability. I just get overwhelmed now.

Sometimes I do wonder if I have adhd.

Downtown123 · 02/11/2022 00:35

Never read a head after first few words I was in a world of my own until it was my turn and I didn’t have a clue where I was up to or what had been said. Diagnosed adhd

InvincibleInvisibility · 02/11/2022 00:47

I always used to read ahead even though I'd often already read the book (my mum was an English teacher and we were all avid readers in the family).

I used to read clearly and quickly out loud - to my annoyance this meant that the teacher would make me read at least twice as much as everyone else. Annoying cos I wanted to get back to the place I was reading in my head!

Yy to fully visualising books in your head. Harry potter does NOT look like Daniel Radcliffe thank you very much!

Although I read so fast in my head I sometimes miss words - and by the time I realise, the character is already fully formed in my head and I can't go back and change eye/hair colour etc.

I am currently pursuing an ADHD diagnosis, and both my DSes have it.

mathanxiety · 02/11/2022 01:41

We did the reading aloud thing, but couldn't read ahead as the teacher would interrupt very randomly and call on someone to read. One girl might read a page and a half and the next one might read two sentences.

mathanxiety · 02/11/2022 01:52

There was no reading aloud like this after about 3rd grade (about age 9) in the primary school I went to, and none in secondary.