To think my boss is an arse?

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Boss keeps telling people about the new luxury car he is buying to a team of people, many of whom are not earning much and some of whom will be really struggling financially.
He is a total arse to do this. Have a bit of sensitivity man. Fine mention your car once, but don't keep going on about how you are spending £70k on a new car and all the extras you are thinking of paying for on top.

YABU

he is most likely excited, and talking about it

People do similar for a wide range of purchases and life events, bitter and miserable people can manage their own emotions

@MandalayFray I am not his mother or his friend. He should be professional. He is supposed to be motivating people.

Weird you don’t consider people you work with as people to talk to.

How bizarre. Most see and know more about their co-workers than their family!

I mean it is not my role to validate my boss who is excited. I listen to crap from friends because I care about them. He is my boss.
I would not offload to him about worrying about money, it is not his job to listen to me. But he seems fine using his power to make us all listen.
Because if he was not the boss, someone would have told him by now to tone it down.

Yeah - I mean I can see that it's a bit annoying, but this idea that everyone should be straight-faced, impersonal and businesslike the entire time they're at work just feels antiquated to me.

I like that my bosses and colleagues are human.

I will start sharing with him my financial woes in team meetings?

Yanbu op. Those earning the big bucks should be sensitive to those around them.

Ask him how he is going to pay the new tax on large cars that is allegedly going to be introduced on November 17th (I know it won't be).

If it was not a work environment I'd tell him that it is the sign of a small willy.

Tell him, great, we’re struggling to pay the bills.

Is his wife tithing up to work in designer clothes?

Turning not tithing. Bloody auto correct

I think constantly mentioning how much is spending is probably a bit insensitive, especially if he knows you are paid very little and struggling. Him buying it is fine.

But also it wouldn’t bother me that much either

But I also think jealousy and envy is something that damages only the person feeling it. Can make you really bitter.

Maybe just roll your eyes and forget it. There will always be people more senior who can afford things you can’t.

Maybe he thinks talking about it will motivate you all to aspire to his job. Or something like that!

@Ekátn I do not want a luxury car. I know there are always people with more than me. But it is an abuse of power. If I started talking in team meetings about my financial struggles I would be rightly told it is inappropriate.

@ICouldHaveCheckedFirst Then he is stupid as well.

No but it’s normal to maybe chat about having to do a bit less at the weekends now due to COL crisis etc. to your colleagues.

Its called conversation.

How on gods green earth is him chatting about something he is excited about an abuse of power!?

ffs

God you'd hate working in my office. We share everything, good and bad, in our lives.

How far do you take it though, OP?

Should people not talk about their families in front of people at work in case it triggers anyone whose family members are deceased? Should they not talk about getting a haircut in case it triggers the bald? What about talking about buying a house (generally a lot more expensive than a car)?

To me, a car is a tin box that gets you from A to B so I'd probably mentally dismiss him as a mug with more money than sense.

YABU. The same as the OP of the identical thread two weeks ago with the female boss with the designer handbag. Maybe they're a couple.

There were a goodie.

Meanness of spirit is very er, ... mean.

Not everyone is skint

By that thinking no one could mention they are going on holiday with their annual leave, just incase someone else can’t. Or even a day out, or a meal out.

Would that be an abuse of power?

if you don’t want a luxury car, what’s the issue?

I'd tell him if he was really going overboard on it. I'd do it as a "favour" to let him know how it's making people feel.