BIL is doing building work on our house after flood damage. He has a history of huge fallouts with his family and traumatic meltdowns - he has had a difficult life.
He had a row with another tradesman (also working on the house) over a few hundred pounds last week and sent me a text message saying he has left, will not be coming back and would not be continuing with the work because of this row. This caused major stress as it would mean renegotiating with the insurance to give the work to someone else, finding someone else to do the work and living with an unfinished house for even longer. The stress set my panic attacks off again which I had been having since the flood but had stopped a few weeks ago (PTSD related). I was incredibly angry that he would let us down and just send a text message without talking to us about his frustrations.
A few days later he turned up again and started work again as if nothing had happened. He is staying with us while he is doing the building work but just being in the same room as him makes me feel stressed and angry - I could do with some time away to let my emotions settle. Should I tell him how stressed and angry I was (and still am) or leave things be? Telling him would help me to find some inner peace again. However, it might trigger a meltdown for him and then he would probably abandon the building site again. If I tell him how I feel, I would start by saying I understand his frustration with the other tradesman and I value and appreciate the hard work he is putting in to get our house back to normal.