To let my dc (10) put some of his Trick and Treat sweets in his packed lunch?

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Trivial aibu!!

It’s only as a one off and I’m not sure it’s worth the battle saying no!

Depends on how he will react if they are confiscated! If he's cool with it, then why not? My two freak out at anything kind of "telling off", so I wouldn't for them, but that's the only reason why.

Not if it’s going to cause problems with the lunchbox police or other children wanting some. I wouldn’t do it.

I think giving kids sweets and then expecting teachers to deal with the issues they cause, jealousy, behaviour confrontation, sugar high is a shitty thing to do.

Give them sweets in your own time.

Nope... give him one as a treat on the way home, or sweets for pudding after tea.

No need for sweets at school, most schools have a policy of healthy lunchbox.

Are we talking a fun size Mars Bar or ten bags of Tangfastics?

This seems simple, no sweets in lunch boxes. You can take some and meet them at school with them.

My DCs school once removed the dolly mixtures we'd used to decorate a cake. Are they allowed sweets in lunch boxes?

Health wise it’s better for his teeth to have the sweets with his lunch rather than as a separate snack later. If his school are ok with sweets then I would.

They'll be confiscated in every school I know.

Then he can have them with his evening meal.

Or he could have it with lunch if his school allow sweets…

I think this is the key question here. My DCs school has a Healthy Lunchbox policy. Chocolate covered biscuits (eg Penguins) get a pass but stuff like Haribo isn't permitted. That said, I put a handful of gummy sweets in there on shopping days when the cupboards are bare of other lunchbox approved things for dessert. But DS2 (9) has learned to eat them by stealth, lest one of the MDSAs make a comment.

I work in a school and honestly, I couldn't get worked up about a small pack of Haribo in an otherwise healthy lunchbox. I was more concerned about the child who consistently brought in a lunchbox containing wraps with chocolate spread, three chocolate bars and a packet of crisps (no food issues to warrant this).

Is there such a school? I highly doubt it.

They would be confiscated in our school. A chocolate bar is fine though. Never understood that one.

I think YABU if you’re really doing it because it’s easier than parenting your child and saying, “no”.

YANBU if you just think it’ll be a nice Hallowe’en treat and you know school don’t have rules. In which case - you’re old enough to make that decision without some faux Pearl clutching on MN, surely?

So it’s more that it could be allowed if staff turn a blind eye. 🤔
I’d just leave them at home because you’ll not know.

I’m afraid if this is a battle you can’t face you’re going to gave a tough time later on.
The answer should be no. You’re going to create a problem for school staff, cause upset among other children and seriously annoy other parents who did say no.

On rereading the previous post I realise it doesn’t come over well, apologies.
Just say no -,you need to stay firm on these smaller things to build parenting muscles. You’ll have tougher things to deal with later on.

Secondary schools allow sweets

Blood hell if you can't face this battle you're going to really enjoy the teen years

The child is 10.

Fuck me I am glad I am not a kid these days. You mean a school will inspect the lunchbox and remove any sweets from a 10 year old. Shouldn't they be concentrating on teaching them maths, English etc

It’s not really that straightforward. But it’s not like when I was at school, no.
My DC are in their twenties but healthy lunchboxes were a thing even when they were little.

This. You know it isn't allowed so why do it, why give teachers more problems? You don't want it a battle for you, so you pass the buck onto someone else. Shitty thing to do.

I wonder what decision was made! 🍭🍬