12 yo trick or treat

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My 12 yo ds is sulking because I've said he's too old to trick or treat. His younger sister is going. Am I being mean?

Ok, I've admitted I am being unreasonable and I'm trying to sort it out. Panic costume prep!

My 13yo isn't going this year (but went last year). I think it's borderline at this age.

They missed out on a couple of years due to covid. As long as they're polite, I'd be happy to hand over some sweets.

Yabu but you're trying to sort it. Even the teenagers go out round here - it's a whole town sort of affair

I've just had 3 teen boys (probably 13/14) knock. Not dressed up, no make up, just a mumble "trick or treat?"

I said (laughingly) come on guys, you've not put in any effort so no!

I don't feel mean. They went off OK. Hope I don't get egged later (though I know exactly who they are and where they live) 😏

YANBU what I've always said to mine is when your old enough to go on your own your to old

I think it's the perfect age to go and have a bit of fun doing it independently.

I refused to open the door tonight to a group of teenagers who made absolutely no effort. No costumes at all, no treats!

Op I love that you have changed your mind, are going to apologise and let him go. You sound like a brilliant parent. Hope he has an amazing time. 💖

Well done OP.

On another thread a poster wrote " refusing to change your mind, regardless, is an adult version of a tantrum ".

I'm not saying you have to bend to every whim but changing your mind after consideration and apologising is being a great role model to your son.