To stop my friendship

[Fentylipgloss]

Background.

We've been friends for around 8 months. Right from the beginning of chatting (met on a dating site where my profile specifically stated that I wasn't looking for a sexual relationship), I have reiterated that I didn't want sex. He's good looking for sure but not my type and I am confident in saying I've done nothing, like absolutely nothing to lead him on in any way, in fact I told him I am bi and I'm actually wanting a woman.

Anyway, he came round to see me the other day and his demeanour had changed. He was getting a bit touchy which made me incredibly uncomfortable. I told him to chill and that we're just friends. When he was leaving I walked out to his car with him (which i always do) and he grabbed me to try and kiss me. I pulled back and asked him what he was doing. He started saying that he was 'falling for me' and that he 'really cares and wants to look after me'.

While we've been friends he's had several ONS so for him to come out with that was totally out of the blue. I asked him if I had made him think I was interested and he said 'no' but he said he knows how shit my previous relationship was and he wants to show me how I should be treated.... BUT... he knows I'm not interested like that.

I've just been my normal ugly dull self and he wants to be with me, how can I continue being friends with him.

AIBU to think ending the friendship would be easier on us both?

He’s not your friend.

@Royalbloo For the last 8 months we've had what I thought was a pretty decent 'friendship'. We were friendly. Nothing out of the ordinary.

He wants a shag.

Perhaps dating sites are not the place to be looking for just friendships. There are other sites for uncomplicated meet ups with no expectations of anything else.

I've just been my normal ugly dull self and he wants to be with me, how can I continue being friends with him.

Please don't.

He's a disrespectful boundary-pusher.
He is refusing to hear your NO.
He is not your 'friend'.

He sees you as a challenge to conquer

He's a disrespectful boundary-pusher.
He is refusing to hear your NO.
He is not your 'friend'.
^^ this!

Yup - treat ‘em mean, keep ‘em keen! He sees you as a challenge. If he won’t respect your boundaries, bin him off!

@RandomMess

A challenge? That's a good point, but I am so unattractive, even I would avoid touching me... that's why it's so strange. If I was a beautiful woman, maybe yes, a challenge, but no, not me, unless he's got a bet going with his mates 'pull a pig'? That's possible.

The attraction is that you have said no, he likes the thrill of the chase.

@RandomMess He wants to f* an uggo!????

Whatever his motivations are you can get clear about your own values.
You want a relationship with a woman and you told him that, but he has ignored what you've said.

He made you feel uncomfortable and even after you told him to chill he tried to force himself on you, so he is aggressive and can't read the room. Are these your values in a friendship? Is this what you want in a friend?