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@MummyGummy
I don't know.
Im not sure how you'd determine 'most in need' without totally humiliating people. I've never used a food bank (but I don't kid myself that most of us are only a couple of paydays from a complete change of lifestyle, and a couple more from needing help). I know that if I needed to, having to go through a referral process up & having to show strangers my bank accounts & bills would make me not want to, it would be so humiliating having people sit as judge & jury. I think people are entitled to their dignity.
I think that step change etc should definitely be encouraged.
move to somewhere cheaper. I think you're over simplifying this! If they have a mortgage, expecting them to sell, move away & buy a smaller place, whilst they can't even feed themselves is just beyond comprehension.
if they rent, it's the same really. There is nothing on the rental market here under £1200pm & they're rare, they're mostly over £1500 (and that's for very small 2/3 bdrm terraced houses, there aren't any smaller or flats, even if you wanted them.
Even if these mythical 'cheaper homes' existed they'd be moving away their support network, kids school & their jobs.
I really have no idea how you think 'moving to something cheaper' is an option, for all but the very occasional person.
I do agree there is an percentage of people who feel entitled to be supported to live a lifestyle they want to & yes some people on benefits do take the piss, but I believe they're very much the minority & others shouldn't be punished because of them.
I agree that children need to be taught about budgeting, and personally I think our curriculum needs to change to allow for more practical teaching. Teachers don't have the time with the kids to teach more on top of what they do, but I think things need to be swapped out.
you also have the difficulty of 'how' do you teach life skills in a way that allows for the difference in home lives?? There are many ways to 'budget' and different things different families prioritise and teaching something that either goes against culture/family beliefs or whatever is going to cause stress at home. (You only have to look at how school teaching Healthy Eating, causes problems
There have been articles on the BBC about children having to share a toothbrush, a young mother with a newborn who can’t afford to top up her electricity etc. In the mothers case she was with an older man who already had 3 children, and would have known when she got pregnant their financial situation was difficult. Why bring a child into that? And in the background of the pictures were all sorts of toys/clutter which just aren’t necessary
the 'young mother'. It's very easy to say she should have known better & not got pregnant. But not everyone comes from a stable, loving family that have given them the the skills to make good decisions in life. He's older, maybe he made her feel wanted, loved & secure for the first time in her life, yes he's probably a controlling twat, but she's feels he's HER 'man'.
As for 'the clutter' maybe they were given the toys? 4 kids have a lot of clutter🤷🏻♀️ Plus yeah, possibly some unwise spending, but again, a few cheap items she's bought for the kids probably made her feel better. Not wise, but not life changing either.
I DO agree some people need help getting out of a poverty cycle. But I don't agree with the tone of your post. It feels very much like blaming people like the young mum for most likely being brought up the way she was, and not having the life skills she should have been taught. She needs help not judgement.
& Food Banks should be there for those that need them, when they need them, for as long as they need them.