To be this sad about my gran dying?

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My gran was quite ill for a while, however, her death was quite sudden if that even makes any sense.

She died last night, with her family around her, including me. I've been a total mess ever since. I would say I was close with my gran, I always took for granted that she was just round the corner though.

Last night I was called to the hospital late, I don't know if she knew I was there, but I said everything I needed to say to her and just comforted her the best I could.

I have been a total mess since, I'm actually feeling embarrassed about it as even my mum and aunt aren't as bad. I am okay for a while then I'm in tears. I've never had someone close watch them die, it feels like a break up to me. That's the only way I can describe my feelings.

One minute I'm fine and thinking, she's at peace now and was surrounded by family, the next I'm really struggling and can barely breathe.

Is this a normal reaction? Anyone that speaks to me im bursting out crying and I don't want people to think im being a drama Queen or trying to take the attention from her daughters. Is this a normal reaction from a gran passing? I see loads of people just getting on with it but I can't.

Sorry to hear this OP. Don't compare your grief to anyone else's, everyone grieves differently. No one will think you're a drama queen, it just sounds like you loved your man very much.

*nan very much

Perfectly normal.
Sorry for your loss

Of course you're not being a drama queen, this is a huge shift in your life.

And people react differently. I doubt anyone who was involved in her life are "just getting on with it" as easily as that.

I'm sorry you lost your gran. Your reaction seems completely normal to me though; everybody grieves in their own way.

Absolutely normal. So sorry for your loss. 💐

I am so sorry for your loss. Your reaction sounds perfectly normal to me. Please be kind to yourself, give yourself time to grieve. There are no right or wrong ways to go through these things.

Oh Op, when someone you care about dies is normal to feel very sad. You’re totally normal and it shows you’ve got a beating heart in your chest. Cry as much as you need to. When my Grandad died I was very sad, but allowing myself to feel sad definitely helped me in the long rung, rather than trying to get away from the emotion. 💐

You're allowed to feel whatever you want. I'm sorry to hear about your gran.

I think the grief response can be thought about as partly about losing someone, but also a horrible realisation of mortality and the fragility of life. We like to pretend we'll all be around for ever. When someone really close does, especially if we see the process up close, we realise nothing lasts forever and it can be a kind of loss of innocence.

It's a gut punch, like with a break up when you realise a relationship you used to rely on has gone for ever. A part of you goes with it.

Let yourself grieve and in time you'll feel less raw about it all.

It's completely normal OP. I'm sorry about your Gran. I lost my Granny (whom I was extremely close to) 3 years ago and it devastated me. I still get upset now at the thought of never seeing her again. I usually hate clichés, however, "grief is the price we pay for love" is very true. You'll never get over your loss but it does get easier. Don't compare your grief to that of others, everyone deals with loss differently x