To feel that DH is taking the piss

[flusteredmummy]

My 2 children come out of school and head straight for the TV.
Still in there uniform at 4pm I ask for the umpteenth time for them to get changed.
They both say they are hungry so set about making them some soup and toast and the phone rings just as the toast is burning ad I am trying to get them to get changed and get up the table.

Ignore phone and phone rings straight away so think it must be urgent.

It is DH asking what time DS 's appointment is tomorrow,which I have told him about 5 times.Cue kids arguing in the background,soup boiling away and still not changed.

DH says "oh I'll let you go you sound like you have your hands full"

You don't say!!!!

anyway 7pm and he is still not home .
He finishes at 4.30 can be home for 5pm.

Methinks he is relaxing in the pub somewhere leaving it all to me.

His phone is saying it is unavailable at the moment.
Good job I'm not.

Feel like the housekeeper/nanny

Ok bonkerz, looks like it's just me and you in the commune!

Right, I'm off to bed. Knackered already.

Sorry everyone only just got back on the computer after DH unplugged it.

He came back in about 8.15 after the children were asleep and was not in the best of moods.

I tried to tell him how annoyed I was but he played his usual game of listing all my short comings and made it about me and what I do wrong.

Let's just say I am really upset and was in tears as he said some really hurtful things re our DS ,which were unforgiveable.
He has gone up to bed about 20 mins ago and his parting words were that I was to think about what he said and get a grip on reality.

So yet again he has turned things around and made me feel like shit.

Thanks everyone for your replys.

My children are 6 and 4 .
i really should learn to drive ,am 41 and have left it way too long.

The power thing and being told what to do is exactly right.

Manoo and bonkerz,I'll join the commune.
Sounds a good idea.

Oh god, my dh used to do that - really used to have my head spinning and turn things round so that I was the bad guy. He was so good at it!

I got better at it.

You really do have to throw it back at them. dh used to make me get so flustered I'd not be able to articulate my thoughts, he'd use that as 'proof' that I was talking rubbish!!

You can't get into an argument with them, they don't listen. You have to stick to your main - pre thought out - points and repeat them. I also started responding to dh by telling him that he was trying to manipulate me and I was tired of it.

I also have a dictaphone, plan was to record him and play it back to him! But I never caught him!

Got to go to bed now, I'm falling asleep, but you can train him out of this - dh is living proof!!!!!!

thanks hecate-maybe some hope then.

Sunflowervalley, can't help with your dh.

As for being to old to learn to drive at 41 my mum passed her driving test first time at that age, I paid for her lesson once i passed my 3RD driving test i was 21.

lizziemun-I really should look into it,would open up a whole new world.