Wondering if we should feel bad at all?

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I was due to attend my good friends wedding. The day before my young DS was admitted to hospital. Obviously I couldn’t attend and DS would always come first but neither did DH the next day. He came to the hospital and was around incase DS got discharged.

Suddenly I had this awful anxiety that should my DH have gone. The wedding was 2.5 hours from where we live, the hospital is 1 hour in the opposite direction from where we live so would have taken DH 3.5 hours to get there. There were no family near by so I’d have had no one about.

were we wrong in our choice to both miss the wedding? Just had a sudden panic as it was a day before pull out but we felt at the time we both needed to be about for our son.

No one in their right mind would expect you to do anything different than both be with your son.

I agree with PP.

Of course you weren't! Sorry to hear your son was in hospital, you've absolutely been right to put him first. Sincerely doubt either of you would be in mind setting for a long drive or celebration!

Absolutely not. I would think badly of anyone who came to my wedding when their child was in the hospital.

I hope your son is on the mend

I wouldn’t give it any thought. It’s a wedding, it doesn’t matter at all in comparison to your son being in hospital. Hope he's okay.

If your friend had an issue she wasn't a friend worth having.

I would absolutely not expect someone who’s child was in hospital to go to my wedding! Honestly, any good friend / family member would understand this. I wouldn’t expect either you or DH to come

Of course you weren’t being unreasonable. I’m sure the bride and groom totally understood and would rather you be with your son.
hope he’s on the mend now 💐

Of course your husband should have stayed home. I can't imagine anyone thinking otherwise.

You did the right thing. I hope your son is better soon

No, don't be daft. I can't imagine anyone- even the Brideszillaiest Bridezilla- that would be cross about you and your DH not attending under these circumstances. I hope your little one is fully recovered soon.