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SPH112 · 2022-10-29T09:00:55+00:00

Aibu or being too sensitive. We were out yesterday and eating. There was me, DS6, DP and their DD11. We were just talking about who is the fussiest among us as DP said she was the most and then DS and her DD joined in and were like yea we only like certain foods. Then my DP said we'll your DS is the most infuriating. I said that's really not a nice thing to say. Especially in front of him. They just said oh sorry I didn't mean it like that. DP has a habit of "saying stuff they didn't mean" but it's harsh stuff they say. Aibu?

Testina · 29/10/2022 10:22

And yet on your other thread, your girlfriend had a go at you for making her 11yo cry (supposedly) cos you told them to hurry up using the loo as you were waiting to get back into the bath.

Your girlfriend might be an Arsehole, but she sticks up for her child more than you do.

CiderJolly · 29/10/2022 10:25

I just searched your other posts- only read 1 quickly and it’s quite obvious your partner is an absolute bitch and you’re a walkover.

If you want to make shit relationship choices when your kid is grown up and left home that’s fine. But to inflict all this drama and instability on your 6 year old? You need to grow up and start putting your kid first. Also get counselling as you’re obviously getting some kind of kick out of being with someone who is so obviously vile to you and your kid.

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SPH112 · 29/10/2022 10:27

CiderJolly · 29/10/2022 10:25

I just searched your other posts- only read 1 quickly and it’s quite obvious your partner is an absolute bitch and you’re a walkover.

If you want to make shit relationship choices when your kid is grown up and left home that’s fine. But to inflict all this drama and instability on your 6 year old? You need to grow up and start putting your kid first. Also get counselling as you’re obviously getting some kind of kick out of being with someone who is so obviously vile to you and your kid.

I don't get a kick out of anything thank you. I am also having counselling

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Astrak · 29/10/2022 10:32

I think that you should have a private conversation with the person who made such a horrible comment to your young son.
If they don't understand why you're having major issues about it, I think you should ditch him.
I spent my childhood listening to my parents and elder sister talking about me as if I wasn't there. They said horrible, critical things in front of me which have harmed my mental state for decades.
My saving grace were my animals and my academic brain.
Decades on, I have acquaintances rather than friends. My animals, the radio and books are my safe spaces. Lonely but safe.

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SPH112 · 29/10/2022 10:36

Astrak · 29/10/2022 10:32

I think that you should have a private conversation with the person who made such a horrible comment to your young son.
If they don't understand why you're having major issues about it, I think you should ditch him.
I spent my childhood listening to my parents and elder sister talking about me as if I wasn't there. They said horrible, critical things in front of me which have harmed my mental state for decades.
My saving grace were my animals and my academic brain.
Decades on, I have acquaintances rather than friends. My animals, the radio and books are my safe spaces. Lonely but safe.

I'm really sorry. I also grew up like this too.

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Testina · 29/10/2022 10:45

You grew up like that, and know it, yet you think your son doesn’t notice?

Tsort · 29/10/2022 11:01

I’ve read your PP and now I’m wondering what it would require for you to break up with this person. What needs to happen?

CarefreeMe · 29/10/2022 11:01

I am also having counselling

Save yourself some money.

Stop the counselling and get rid of the person who is driving you to have counselling.

Some relationships don’t work.

Nothing will ever make them work so you can either waste time being with someone you know will never last or just end things and move on and find someone who adores you and your DC.

diddl · 29/10/2022 11:06

Lord she sounds awful.

Get rid Op!

I'm a slow eater.

Can get anxious/nervous in company so take small mouthfuls to cope/not choke.

If people find me infuriating for that they can fuck off in all honesty.

PotentiallyPolly · 29/10/2022 11:37

Just end the relationship already, she’s an abusive cunt from your previous thread and you’re enabling her to do so to your child. Have you learned absolutely nothing from cases like star Hobbs???

CiderJolly · 29/10/2022 11:55

SPH112 · 29/10/2022 10:27

I don't get a kick out of anything thank you. I am also having counselling

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Bullshit.

You’re obviously getting something out of staying in this dysfunctional mess of a relationship- why else would you be willing to sacrifice your kid’s mental health in the process? Take some fucking responsibility and put your kid first. Work on being happy as as a single parent. And if you’re that desperate to be in a relationship that you’ll accept such a shit one then at least wait until your kid has grown up and left home.

Merryoldgoat · 29/10/2022 11:57

I read your last post about your partner.

What are you getting out of this relationship? Your partner is clearly nasty and you’re letting her walk all over you and both of your children.

OldReliable · 29/10/2022 11:58

You again. You are allowing this person to abuse your small child and in my view, you letting this continue is abusive to your child too.

Get rid of her.

ClocksGoingBackwards · 29/10/2022 11:59

If someone ‘has a habit’ of saying things like that to your child, why do you still make your child be around that person?

BellePeppa · 29/10/2022 12:19

Hate hate hate people who put their partner/relationship before their children. Do you do that?

Razzle5 · 29/10/2022 12:21

How long have you been with him?

Razzle5 · 29/10/2022 12:22

DP has a habit of "saying stuff they didn't mean" but it's harsh stuff they say.

Sounds just perfect material for a single mother with a young child. Perfect.

GrazingSheep · 29/10/2022 13:26

You said before that you had finished with her because of the harm she is doing to your child. For his sake finish with her for good.

Razzle5 · 29/10/2022 13:28

Op won’t be back.
such a shame that such a young child is dragged in to such a toxic relationship

Ponoka7 · 29/10/2022 13:35

We'll done, you are giving your child the same abusive upbringing that you had. On every thread you are told that she is abusive to your DS, yet you pick her.

Millsbills · 29/10/2022 13:38

YABU after the drip feed

she meant infuriating whilst eating, so it was a comment in response to being awarded the fussiest eater award so to speak.

Slow eaters are infuriating

NicolaSixSix · 29/10/2022 13:40

Testina · 29/10/2022 10:08

“My DS is luckily quite oblivious to stuff and doesn't take it in”

Don’t be so stupid.

“He didn’t say anything”………

Herejustforthisone · 29/10/2022 14:05

CiderJolly · 29/10/2022 10:25

I just searched your other posts- only read 1 quickly and it’s quite obvious your partner is an absolute bitch and you’re a walkover.

If you want to make shit relationship choices when your kid is grown up and left home that’s fine. But to inflict all this drama and instability on your 6 year old? You need to grow up and start putting your kid first. Also get counselling as you’re obviously getting some kind of kick out of being with someone who is so obviously vile to you and your kid.

Christ. 😐

ChateauxNeufDePoop · 29/10/2022 15:18

YABU purely for the inaccurate OP in which you failed to clarify the context of the comment which has probably lead to an inaccurate vote based on people who just vote on the OP.

Razzle5 · 29/10/2022 15:32

ChateauxNeufDePoop · 29/10/2022 15:18

YABU purely for the inaccurate OP in which you failed to clarify the context of the comment which has probably lead to an inaccurate vote based on people who just vote on the OP.

But the OP very accurately reflects the context.

the DP is a twat