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To ask for a hug for something that is absolutely not about me (suicide)

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Used4tt · 28/10/2022 21:08

I think I saw someone trying to take their life today. I won't go into details for obvious reasons. I was on a train so all I could do was alert the conductor who radio-ed it in and hopefully got help there in time.

I will never find out what happened.

I didn't know them. It had nothing to do with me. My only involvement was a brief look at them through a train window. I might have completely misread the situation and they were actually fine. I know I'm making this about me and being super dramatic but I'm actually pretty upset.

The only person I could tell irl who would give me a hug is in a pretty dark place right now so I can't tell her about it. I don't think she's at risk of self harm so I'm not transferring my emotions about her onto the lady I saw but she can do without my self indulgent nonsense.

I'm a regular poster but I've name changed in case I do decide to tell someone irl.

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ElegantlyTouched · 28/10/2022 21:16

Have a huge hug from me. You did the right thing calling it in, at the worst it was a mistake, at best you tried to save a life.

I think we can sometimes be badly affected by something unconnected to us as its safer, so we can allow ourselves to become upset. Does that make sense? I perfectly understand why you'd find today so upsetting.

Be kind to yourself for the next while. x

girlmom21 · 28/10/2022 21:19

Thank you for telling the conductor. Have a hug from me. You did everything you could x

bloodywitchescat · 28/10/2022 21:21

You did everything you could. I hope you and the person concerned are OK 💐

StoneofDestiny · 28/10/2022 21:22

You have done the right thing and all you could. You cared.

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