To be desperate for a break

[Goingforplatinum]

DD is now 2 and has had a personality change, refuses to go to bed, refuses to nap and then just grumpy all day, hitting, bitting and shouting/ screaming and it's really starting to wear me down.

I have no time for myself at all, I'm either at work or with DD, I can't even have down time any more when she's asleep as she's not going to bed until 10.30.

All leave from work is used in collaboration with child minder, I just feel constantly like I'm either working, tidying or with DD.

Yes I have DH problem and it's not even worth the hassle asking him to parent her for a few hours so I can have a break, I would never hear the end of it. His attitude is he is only the father and is disposable (his words) which also gets me down as he used to spend loads of 1:1 time with DSD when she was DDs age

I have no family my side and DH mother won't have her as she said if a person has a child it's their job to look after them and not to pass them on to someone else. There is literally no one.

AIBU to just want a bit of time for myself??
I constantly look rubbish as I never have time to do my nails nice, hair makeup, or even sleep or read a book.

Feeling very sorry for myself today and exhausted.

Obviously you aren’t being unreasonable to feel completely burnt out and need a break but if you aren’t going to do anything to change the situation then I don’t really know what to say.

I just find it really sad that you are prepared to put up with your husband being such a shit father and not stepping up at all. At this point you would literally be better off single, at least you would get a break then as he would have her for a day every other weekend or something.

I really, really think you should speak to your husband. ‘Not worth the hassle’ isn’t really a valid excuse, she’s only 2, do you really want to go through the rest of your life like this?
Either he steps up or you make your life easier and just get rid of him.

I've often thought about leaving, but I have nowhere to go, I live and work in an area where I know nobody and I have no family, I'm also unsure if it would be financially viable.
One of these situations where you k ow you should walk away but not brave enough.