My Mum never visits

[pyjamafashionista]

My Mum lives around 3 miles away from me.
She doesn't drive, so usually I will pick her up, take her out etc, she is in her 70's but physically and mentally very together.
Occasionally, I suggest she gets a taxi to mine (as I'm waiting for deliveries or have a few things to do etc) and then I'll take her home later in the day, but she will make a million ridiculous excuses and not come unless i pick her up. My Dad passed away 3 years ago, he drove her everywhere and now she expects everyone else to do the same!
I'm working 2 jobs and I'm pretty tired, so sometimes it would be nice if she could show willing or make a bit of an effort to come see me.
It's as though she won't leave the house to visit friends, see me, go anywhere if it involves any effort whatsoever on her part. Everyone is expected to pick her up at her door and drop her off. She moans to me that her friends don't visit often- but when I suggest she maybe visits them, she just makes excuses. Am I being unreasonable or how would you address this?

Anyone?

I have a relative who doesn't drive, if any of the family want to see them we need to give lifts because they don't like using public transport due to a previous fall. It is annoying especially as I'm the only one who lives near this relative (and even then it's a 20 minute drive) so I get asked "can you just pick up so and so on your way over" quite regularly.
Have you tried speaking to your mum about this?maybe try explaining that you'd like to see her more but petrol cost/work mean that you can't pick her up. She then doesn't have the excuse of you not trying to see her. If you pander to her this behaviour will just continue.

Is she anxious or lazy? That would be the deciding factor for me. If she struggled socially and didn't like taxis or public transport then fine I'd do whatever I could to help out, but if she just expects people to run around after her and is unpleasant and demanding then I wouldn't be so keen.