Would you take your child like this?

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Dc, 3 has picked up a cold and chesty cough from nursery. She’s ok in herself, just coughing more at night. She has a Halloween party tomorrow she’s been waiting ages for, would you let your child go? Can they still pass things on, do you think other parents would be pissed off with her coughing everywhere and blame us if their kids get sick 😬

I'd be furious if anyone was selfish enough to take an ill child to a party. Both DSs suffered from chronic asthma and a common cold could leave them ill for weeks.

Agree with this!

It would depend what you mean by a cough. An occasional cough fine. A child continuously coughing then no.

Coughs and colds are rife this time of year, especially amongst little ones. If she’s well in herself I’d still take her.

My dd had a slight fever earlier this week. No other symptoms except slightly stuffy nose. She seemed fine after a couple of days but we all took Covid tests and they were positive.
I know where you’re coming from. If I had kept her him from preschool every time for slight cough/ runny nose, she would have missed about 75% of it by now. As would all the other kids. You have to make a judgment call. But definitely test for Covid.

No, I wouldn't take a coughing, sneezing child to a party. Just because it's cold season, doesn't mean you have to have her sputtering on everyone. And do you know that she doesn't have covid? There are many people who would still take their covid infected DC to a party, but I personally wouldn't and would hope that nobody else did.

If she has had the cold for a while and over the worst of it apart from a lingering cough at night, then I would be ok with taking her.

In real life, my experience is that as long as a child doesn't have a fever and isn't absolutely streaming with snot, parents tend to carry on and attend events and other parents don't bat an eyelid.

My DD has had a cough for the past three weeks. Literally no other symptoms. She's been to school, a party (I checked with the host first) and playdates.

With young kids who are catching everything going there'll barely be a week where they're well in autumn/winter. It's just accepted as par for the course.

The only thing where the majority of parents seem to agree is that you don't take a child with D&V out and about and most parents are good at imposing at least a 24 hour rule on that (I stick to 48 but I know many that don't)

Coughs & colds are constant at that age, so yes I would.
But I’d keep them home if they had a temperature, sickness or upset stomach.

A child with a fever or who feels under the weather, no. A child with a run of the mill cold yes.

If she seems otherwise ok I'd go. It's just a cold we all get them and I don't imagine anyone wld or could be annoyed by that.

Not if she's coughing I wouldn't. Other parents won't like it

I wouldn't even think twice about it and neither would the parents I know. A mild cough or cold are fine. Fever, vomiting, diarrhea or feeling so grotty they can't enjoy themselves obviously you don't bring them then.

I suppose all that matters is what's normal in your circles?

Depends how bad they are. My little one has asthma so can often have a cough for a week or two after the cold is otherwise over. If they were really snotty I probably wouldn’t. I don’t think it’s a hard and fast rule, it’s a matter of degrees.

PPs saying other parents are being precious for not wanting their kids to get ill and/or then miss out on other plans as a result, but somehow it's not precious to shrug and say my kid is ill but their enjoyment is more important than everyone else's health/plans. 🤷‍♀️

YABU to take her and yes, I would be fuming if a parent brought their poorly child to a party.