To expect people to RSVP for children's parties?

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Hi all,
None of my child's friends have replied to her invitation yet and we're left wondering if we should go ahead with our booking or switch days. Why is it so hard for people to do something simple that takes a minute and is just a common courtesy? I get people are busy, but it's hardly time consuming. We don't have everyone's contact details, so the invite was sent out via her school making it hard to follow up.

This is more of a rant really. I just feel like, imagine it was your kids birthday? Take a second and do the polite thing y'know?

It's just rude rude rude
I guess some people don't receive them from school or don't find them in bags - ive done that once but generally some people are just shit

We’ve started just sending invites via WhatsApp (easier once they have a more definite group of friends).

It means that people usually respond quickly and also stops crying in school from anyone not invited… 2 birds 1 stone.

It's really rude and frustrating. Do you know any of the parents to chase via Facebook etc? You shouldn't have to but that's what we did. It was such a relief once my kids grew out of the party phase and I only needed to liaise with a few known and trusted parents for birthday treats!

The other thing I've never understood is when parents "let their kids decide" whether to honour a commitment or not. I thought parents were supposed to make their kids behave decently where they could. I'd never have been allowed to do that.

Really?! I guess my cousin's kids do a lot of extra curricular too - dance/gymnastics/football, so it's not just school friend's parties. It happens at least once a month where my aunty is ferrying the eldest about to parties as the younger two have their own parties and meet ups etc