Is this what my sex life has come to?!

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So nc for this obvious reasons. Been with the same man for over 25 years. Now we're both 46. In the early years we couldn't keep our hands off each other but after kids sex life dwindled. All normal I'm sure. But over last 5 years things got really bad. Literally sex once a year ish. We've talked and talked and really want to fix things as we love each other so much and are best friends.
So over last weeks we've really made the effort and actually had sex twice. All good except after it really hurts me.
Not because he's so big penetration hurts but it's stomach pain. Then earlier today I had throbbing pain in stomach and right down into my vagina. Kind of like the pain I had when very heavily pregnant. Wth is going on? Is this normal after going without for so long? I was totally relaxed doing it. I'm a bit worried. Aibu?

I would see a doctor, pain after sex can be a sign of lots of things.

Really? I kind of thought it's because it's been so long!!

I agree to see a GP. Do you think that you are in peri menopause? because you do get all sorts of strange things happening. Talk it through with the doctor.

I'd get an STD test and a GP appointment

I would also second going to the gp. Are you up to date on all your smear tests? There's lots of things it could be, not all bad, so gp will hopefully be able to put your mind at rest.

No OP, I don't think it's the norm. I went about 10 years without sex (for various reasons) but never had pain of any kind when I started having (very frequent) sex again.

Maybe speak to GP.

It happens to me sometimes, usually when there hasn’t been enough foreplay or time to warm up. It’s like things don’t ‘open up’ enough without it, even if I’m eager to dtd. Even a bit of dirty talk or suggestion 20 minutes beforehand works, like giving my body time to prepare, but if we just get straight down to it I end up with a deep aching sort of pain internally.

I'd see a GP and explain the situation. Better to be safe x

Could be anything from an ovarian cyst to fibroids, to ovarian cancer (less likely but needs checking) to vaginal atrophy due to menopause- can be treated with HRT and internal oestrogen. Don’t ignore it though.

Absolutely this. Do not ignore please. I’d ignored exactly that and well I didn’t have the best of time but I am still here. (All of those things were suggested as a possible and I’d have been jolly glad to have had any of them). Please please see your GP and find out why.

No, it wouldn’t hurt like that.

We once went a period of 18 months without it and it didn’t hurt at all.

There can be many reasons why this would happen and best to speak to your GP.

I had this at your age. Turned out I have loads of fibroids and huge polyps...surgeon took 26 away. Definitely see someone in gynaecology for a check up. Sex was awful back then, but rather fun post-op.

Thanks all I will make an appointment. I still have mild pains now and sex was on Wed night! Smear is up to date as I always go.when told but I can't remember how long ago I had one.
Can't imagine I need an STD test as DH has never been unfaithful and I certainly haven't.. He never goes anywhere without me, we work together too. Been together since we were 17.