Hi I don’t know why I’m writing on here but I’m in pieces
my partner and I have two daughters. 6 months and 6 years. We’ve been together 3, (first dd he took on like his own when she had just turned 3). He was rained off work this morning, and had been upstairs whilst I had the health visitor in. After she left I went up the stairs and found him sleeping, phone unlocked? I’ve never ever checked his phone and I’ve trusted him throughout the whole relationship, but something told me to look. I wish I hadn’t. I seen that he’d exchanged photos with this woman. He’s sent her pictures of his bits and she’s sent back what I can only describe as filth. I confronted him and he immediately admitted everything and said it was once. I don’t believe him! I then had to pick up my older daughter from school and im absolutely numb. He knows I’ve had abusive relationships in the past and how much I’ve battled with my mental health I never thought in a million years this could happen… silly me. After having our youngest daughter he knows how insecure I’ve been which makes it so much harder to accept. I’m absolutely heart broken. I read a post not long ago about a woman who went through the same thing and I remember discussing with him how horrible that must feel. He agreed Knowing fine well he’s done the same. These photos are 3 weeks old and I can’t believe I’ve shared a bed with him since. If he hadn’t of been rained off work I wouldn’t know, my god I’ve never felt pain like this. Ive just got on my feet and have been coping well since having youngest DD. He wants to talk through things and said he’s been really down and it’s a huge massive mistake. He said he doesn’t know the girl and he’s never cheated before, nothing physical has happened but how do I know? It seems like everything has been a lie. He said it was whilst I was sleeping, and regrets it. I just can’t take this in. Please help me