Who was that text from?

[Cupp]

Male here looking for advice/opinions.

My wife of two years is considerably younger that me and it seems her whole life revolves around her phone. I knew how important it was to her because we were together for five years before marriage.

My biggest niggle is this; when we are alone together, (in bed, chilling on the sofa, in the car, having a walk) she will get a message on her phone and launch into a full-scale conversation. When the texts are done, she will put her phone down and get back to what we were previously doing/talking about as if the messages never happened.

Now I'm not jealous or suspicions of anything but it bugs me. I feel as if someone is invading our space at that moment, and I think just cursory "oh, it's just bla bla asking about tomorrows lunch" would be the normal thing to do.

I know I do exactly that, and if I don't instantly tell her who's texting me, she fires questions to me like "Who's that", "What are you talking about", "Let me see".

Is it simply a polite thing to do? Is she being rude? Inconsiderate? disrespectful?
or am I being unreasonable and is it a generation thing I need to accept?

I don't think her texting and not telling you who it is is a problem.

I think her interrupting your conversations is rude and her insisting on knowing who you're texting and demanding you show her the messages is a problem.

Exactly this!!

Neither of you need to know who the other is texting.

If you are in the middle of something and she stops to reply to messages, then say can you do that afterwards.

No text needs an instant reply.

Thanks for all of the replies, I thought I'd had no response because I was expecting some kind of notification when someone replied.

Some feel the same, some don't, but at least I'm not alone here.

It's got absolutely nothing to do with jealousy, control, or suspicion, it's just a bit rude in my book.

Let me explain what happened this morning (and this is a common occurrence), we leave the house together and just as we are putting shoes and coats on, she gets a message on her phone; she stopped getting ready and typed an answer. We then left the house and got in the car. I was driving and just as we belted up, she got another message so typed a reply. This went on for the whole 25-minute journey and she only spoke to me just once during this. My phone was in my pocket, and I got a message notification. She lowered her hands, turned to me and said, "is that your phone? who is it".

I dropped her off and didn't have time to check my phone so I'm wondering if she will remember my message this evening and ask about it!