Toddler and smoke

[firsttimemxm]

Hi long story short i’m an extremely anxious person etc but recently been taking my 2 year old to a family members house and if they know he is coming they won’t smoke and when we are there they will go outside to smoke. I guess my worry is the odd occasion we’ve entered and can tell they’ve just finished one so I always open the windows but just so worried this will affect ds.

They'll be fine but it is a revolting habit.

Assuming LO is healthy then as a one off it’ll be absolutely fine, especially if you open windows.

The occasional visit won't be a problem, but do let them know of your hesitancy and remind them that the smell of cigarettes lingers and stays on your clothes even if they're not smoking when they're with you.

you anbu but neither are they. My parents were very heavy smokers. For us the right decision was they visited us at our house or neutral third party spaces like a coffee shop or a park.

I don't think there's any risk of harm from very occasional exposure. It's grim though. One of my parents smokes and will go outside to smoke but then immediately pick up the kids on coming back inside without hand washing. We've decided the fall out it would cause if we raised an issue isn't worth it, (because ultimately I don't think the kids are at risk), but it really is vile.

My mum is like this. We visit every couple of months so doesn’t bother me

Thanks for all your responses, I agree in my opinion I find it vile and a filthy habit but said family members are in 80s so meeting somewhere neutral/our home isn’t an option, and also very old school thinking set in their ways so appreciate that they don’t do it whilst he is there. Just that initial smell when i walk in sometimes knowing it hasn’t been long since their last is overwhelming and worry about my ds 😅