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Teacher is a bit off/avoidant with me..is my child *That child

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Turnthetvdownforgodssake · 25/10/2022 15:37

Dd, 4 started pre school this September, she’s a bright, funny, brilliant girl, but she’s also strong minded and can be a pain in the butt, I say that as her mum, who loves the bones of her, but also knows her inside out.
The teacher was very kind and friendly at the start as she settled in and said she was doing great etc. Last week, she told me that dd had to sit on the bench as she was pushing another boy on the slide and that Dd was crying as didn’t like to be made to sit on the bench. She said lots of them do it and it’s fine and was dealt with. I spoke to Dd later about it when she sheepishly brought it up, she said she was scared when she got told off, we talked about why she had to sit on there as she can’t push etc
The last couple of times I’ve picked her up, the assistant has brought her out and been friendly but brief.
Today it was the teacher, I asked if all was ok and she gave a quick, half nod and looked uncomfortable. I may sound paranoid but I know that look as I’m a Primary school teacher and it appeared maybe Dd had been difficult but she perhaps didn’t want to always say it?
She was quite short with Dd too, whereas at the start she was very sweet with her, giving her cuddles and gushing over her.
I realise I may be reading too much into it, but I know the way staff can act with different people.

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Turnthetvdownforgodssake · 25/10/2022 15:38

*Different children

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ClocksGoingBackwards · 25/10/2022 15:40

I’m the nicest possible way, is there something that might make her uncomfortable from being around you, rather than your daughter?

If you’re a primary teacher you’ll know that it’s quite often the parents that are the problem, not the kids!

Turnthetvdownforgodssake · 25/10/2022 15:51

@ClocksGoingBackwards I don’t think so 🤷🏻‍♀️She was genuinely so friendly and chatty until DD’s incident last time

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Turnthetvdownforgodssake · 25/10/2022 15:52

@ClocksGoingBackwards Perhaps I look too worried as I often feel worried Dd might be being hard work, as she is at home 😬

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Hellodarknessmyoldpal · 25/10/2022 16:00

If this was a one off perhaps she had something else on her mind, 'i must make sure i catch Ellie's mum to tell her about X'. Quite often at the end of the day the teacher will have a few things to remember. I think you're reading too much into it and if there are any issues she should be contacting you.

ClocksGoingBackwards · 25/10/2022 16:04

It could be anything, it could easily just be that the teacher was distracted or grumpy for some other reason that had nothing to do with you or dd.

You’ll never know for sure and it’s not worth overthinking. Whatever it is, the teacher still has a duty to do her best for your child and she will.

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