How to stop feeling blah

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Anyone else feeling this?

I have days of it on and off, but it’s quite often recently. I just feel meh 🤷🏻‍♀️like I cba and like nothing really, a sort of ‘What’s the point’
I try so hard to find happiness, plan things with Dh and Dd, 4, with friends, look forward to things and mostly I’m quite content and ok. Then it will come along and hit me and I wonder what really is the point. Everyone I saw at the shopping and supermarket today just looked miserable, there’s no spark etc
Anyone else feel like this? How do I keep these feelings away?

I don't have an answer but I feel the same.

I feel very much like this, I get like it every year at this time as I hate Autumn/Winter and really struggle with the dark nights and bad weather. It makes me miserable and disinclined to want to do anything.

I felt like that. I took up music again and play in a band twice a week with all the gigs. I feel like me again.

@Chikapu I’m never sure if I love or hate this time of the year. I was getting quite excited and have been getting Halloween ready with Dd and love the coming coziness and build up to Christmas. But then all of a sudden it feels the opposite and just..whatever, just really flat

I completely relate to this.

Maybe having something to look forward to can make you feel better. Date night with DH, cheap holiday like camping, theatre, booking Christmas activities etc.

I think with everything going on in the world right now it's really hard to stay positive and up beat. Even though we're in an ok position financially I find myself feeling guilty for spending money on days out, coffees or lunches with friends etc and it's quite a depressing feeling.

Something I used to do which really improved my positive mindset (I really need to start doing it again) is journaling. It can be writing down what you have done that day, something that made you smile, something you feel grateful for in that moment etc)

Hope you are feeling better soon x

I have the same feelings a lot of the time. Questioning the point of everything and monotony of it all. I want to be clear I’m not suicidal. I suppose I’m just really questioning the society and economy we have built and how so much our time and energy is given to such mundane and unrewarding activities such as most jobs, travelling, chores. I feel flat so often.

Having a big exciting day out or splurging some money shopping for something nice is a brief high but doesn’t keep back the feeling for long.

One thing that did help somewhat was regular sex and physical intimacy in my past relationship. Currently on a bit of a dry spell at the moment.

Sorry I've just re read your Op and you mentioned having things to look forward to🤦🏻‍♀️

You can't keep those feelings away, they are entirely normal. There is so much pressure on people to stay 'positive', and put on a 'happy' front all the time. It's totally unrealistic.

I'm in a bit of a slump at the moment, don't have my usual mojo. Even stuff that I usually find enjoyable feels a bit 'blah'. It will shift, it always does. I'm just going with it for now. Fighting the feelings and telling yourself off for having them just adds to the misery