Would you go to the Halloween party?

[Greenginghamdress]

I've been invited to a Halloween party of old friends on Saturday. I say old, they are a group I knew about 11-12 years ago when I was young single childfree.

I moved away when I was pregnant to my hometown, 30 miles away. Bar one close friend who is in this group and going to the party, I haven't seen them all in at least 5 years.

It was very kind of them to invite me and their parties are fun, but I'm feeling like I can't be bothered!

I'm the sort who always makes an effort to see friends and I put myself out to honour commitments usually.

Going to the party would mean a 45 min train ride on my own each way in fancy dress in the evening (the train ride wouldn't bother me normally). My good friend is going but heading there earlier and staying over, he's childfree and single as a lot of this group are (not saying it makes any difference but I feel it's revelant as I can't spend all day there beforehand or stay over that night) and I feel like I'd be a bit on my own. I'm sure it'd be great and nice to see people when I got there but I feel like- and this is a first for me- it's a lot of effort to see people I'm no longer close to.

I have night out with other friends the night before and tbh I don't want to leave DD for two consecutive evenings.

AIBU:

YABU- try to attend

YANBU- don't attend

Thanks

If you don't want to go, don't go. Just say you have other commitments, but thank you for the invite.

Thanks. I would go if it was easier but it isn't.

I'd carry my costume in a bag and change there/when going home. I like parties, though and don't get many invites.

I probably wouldn't bother going either due to transport and costumes, but I hate fancy dress parties! Also if you mainly want to catch up on the news of old friends busy parties are often not the best place for that.
An invitation is exactly that, it's not compulsory to attend. If you don't want to go just tell them you can't make it this time but hope to catch up soon

I’d go but it’s completely up to you ultimately. I take your point about the train journey, I’d probably go in toned down fancy dress, although on Halloween weekend I’m not sure anyone would really bat an eyelid.