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Original poster

DH and covid

76 replies

Nahgiem · 23/10/2022 15:42

DH has it and has locked himself away from the rest of us. He's now saying our 6 y.o. will need to be tested before we could allow them to school tomorrow (first day back after holidays). I disagree - I have followed every rule all the way through so I checked current guidance which is not to test kids even with symptoms, unless a doctor advises it. DC doesn't even have symptoms. I think it's a waste of time (and one of our last tests) since I'd send them anyway as they're healthy. He thinks a positive test (with no symptoms) still means we'd keep them off school all week.

I'm all for keeping people safe so I'm slightly conflicted, but tend to go with guidance which would be no test and send in regardless as a healthy child shouldn't be missing their education.

YABU - do the test and keep off school if positive
YANBU - no testing and school as usual

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HappyAsASandboy · 23/10/2022 16:39

Guidance at our school is to send them in if they're ok, and keep them home if they're too sick to go in. No need to test either way; just treat it as you would any other illness and only keep them off if they're too ill to go in.

ThatGirlInACountrySong · 23/10/2022 16:47

Just tell him she's going in!

Mindymomo · 23/10/2022 16:47

You will need to follow guidance set by the school and that’s probably only keep child off school if ill.

Howabsolutelyfanfuckingtastic · 23/10/2022 16:51

Send her in if she's well.

interviewdramaqueen · 23/10/2022 16:52

I'd be testing and if positive keeping home...

lentilly · 23/10/2022 16:52

Do what the school say

40andfit · 23/10/2022 16:52

Are you in England? It’s half term in most English schools.

CheezePleeze · 23/10/2022 16:53

YANBU, just stick to the guidance.

Looneytune253 · 23/10/2022 17:00

40andfit · 23/10/2022 16:52

Are you in England? It’s half term in most English schools.

She's just said they're going back after half term, did u miss it? None of the half terms are ever the same to be fair

bigknickersbigknockers · 23/10/2022 17:03

Your DH is clearly stuck in 2020

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Nahgiem · 23/10/2022 17:04

I can't find the school guidance except the national letter we got back in May saying testing has stopped and not to keep them off with runny noses etc., only if they're really unwell.

I've tested us all anyway to keep the peace and thankfully we're negative but I still need to have the discussion of how often we test this week, what we do if it's positive, etc so your input is helpful!

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AllThatFancyPaintsAsFair · 23/10/2022 17:06

40andfit · 23/10/2022 16:52

Are you in England? It’s half term in most English schools.

Not anywhere me it isn't and presumably the OP does know her child's term dates

I wouldn't test, my childrens school says no need if fine.

Toottooot · 23/10/2022 17:07

40andfit · 23/10/2022 16:52

Are you in England? It’s half term in most English schools.

A lot of Scottish schools are back the morn. 💁🏻‍♀️

balalake · 23/10/2022 17:09

Please test. You don't know who in your child's class has unvaccinated parents, or works in medical settings, or would want to be healthy for an event coming up in the near future.

balalake · 23/10/2022 17:09

Sorry for taking a while to write, glad you have tested.

Darbs76 · 23/10/2022 17:11

Half terms vary even in England from county to county.

id follow the school and government guidance. There’s no point them staying off and missing education when the rules say they don’t need to anymore, and no-one is doing this. My brother had to go to work with covid. Just the way it is now

BlueRidge · 23/10/2022 17:13

So, all those of you intending to send in "healthy" positive-testing children because they "shouldn't be missing their education," what happens when they give it to their teacher, who is then more than possibly going to be off work with precious little chance of adequate cover?
Not much educating going to be happening then, for your child or the other 29 in the class.
But well done you!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 23/10/2022 17:15

You can’t continue keeping healthy kids off school, it’s not fair to them

Unless she has actual symptoms, don’t test and just send her in as normal. It’s all very well to say “protect others” but sure as anything they’ll be someone else in the school at any given time with Covid.

rainbowandglitter · 23/10/2022 17:17

We've got covid in the house and it's half term this week. I'm testing ds before we go out anywhere just because I don't want to spread it.

JustOrderADoor · 23/10/2022 17:18

40andfit · 23/10/2022 16:52

Are you in England? It’s half term in most English schools.

@40andfit

Given she says it's the first day back after half term I'm sure she knows best.

gamerchick · 23/10/2022 17:20

If he's locked himself away then how will he stop him going in? Just ignore him I would.

Isaidnoalready · 23/10/2022 17:20

BlueRidge · 23/10/2022 17:13

So, all those of you intending to send in "healthy" positive-testing children because they "shouldn't be missing their education," what happens when they give it to their teacher, who is then more than possibly going to be off work with precious little chance of adequate cover?
Not much educating going to be happening then, for your child or the other 29 in the class.
But well done you!

Are you paying everyone's fine? You will get fined for this now its no longer a reason for absence unless they are actually ill with it

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Nahgiem · 23/10/2022 17:21

BlueRidge · 23/10/2022 17:13

So, all those of you intending to send in "healthy" positive-testing children because they "shouldn't be missing their education," what happens when they give it to their teacher, who is then more than possibly going to be off work with precious little chance of adequate cover?
Not much educating going to be happening then, for your child or the other 29 in the class.
But well done you!

Well, yes, this is why it's conflicting, but it's the government and the schools who are telling us to send them in, so I have to assume they've done the risk assessment and weighed it up and decided this is for the best on the whole. If they didn't advise it, I wouldn't consider doing it, but they're telling us that's what we should do.

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Bigbadfish · 23/10/2022 17:23

BlueRidge · 23/10/2022 17:13

So, all those of you intending to send in "healthy" positive-testing children because they "shouldn't be missing their education," what happens when they give it to their teacher, who is then more than possibly going to be off work with precious little chance of adequate cover?
Not much educating going to be happening then, for your child or the other 29 in the class.
But well done you!

Considering all the teachers I know are still living full lives, going to clubs, social events etc
If they're off it's impossible to pin point where it came from.

toomuchlaundry · 23/10/2022 17:25

I wouldn’t assume the Government has done a risk assessment!

Schools have even less money than they had last year, so if teachers go off sick most schools won’t be able to afford supply to cover their absence. So might be chaos for the next few months as COVID works it’s way through schools