To think it

[baddestthesky]

DD is a supply teacher who lives at home, qualified only a few months ago. She has told her agency she is unavailable for work on one next day month next as it's my big birthday. My friend has told me my DD should not be turning down any work at all?

AIBU to tell my friend to keep her nose out our family's business?

No you are not. It's nobody else's business.

Would her saying she is unavailable for that one day make it a possibility she loses out on 3 solid weeks of work because a school wants someone for 3 weeks & doesn’t want the hassle of the agency finding 2 different people?

Presumably your friend was just voicing an opinion, not insisting your DD phone them back and say she is available after all, so yes YWBABU.

Why does your friend even know though?

Why are you asking Mumsnet whether you should tell your friend something is none of her business?

Do you think in any way it might be her business, if so how?

If the friend wanted to ask whether placements are typically requested at longer batches, she could have done so. Maybe they are maybe not.

No need to criticize young adults without a good reason. Being able to decide your working days is one of the advantages of supply jobs.

You can tell your friend to mind her own business but I happen to think she has a point!
It makes placing her more difficult. If she had a permanent teaching job there is no way she would be able to take the day off for a birthday.

It sounds like a bit of a non-event really. The friend could have said it out of malice, out of genuine worry, or a million things in between.

If you now approach the friend and circle back to the conversation just to confront her about this remark it might look weird.

What are you planning to say? “Oi, Dawn, I’ve got a bone to pick with you over the comment you made the other night about my DDs shifts at work. I’ve mulled it over, and have decided that from now on I’d like you to keep your nose out of my family’s business. Anyway, how’s things?”

Are you the poster who constantly posts about her NQT daughter?

Why did you tell your friend your DD was blocking out the day if it was none of her business though?
Its a weird thing to bring up to a friend.

Have you ever thought you are overly involved with your DD? You post so many non-event posts about her being a newly qualified teacher, it’s bizarre.

Why is your friend getting involved? She's taking a days leave (I know on this occasion she won't be paid) to make memories on a special occasion. Butt out friend.