To say DH needs to make a decision about study/work commitment?

[Cazzie1979]

My DH was made redundant from a billing role in April but he saw it as an opportunity to retrain in Cyber Security, an area he was very interested in. He still needs a job while studying so he works full time in the week (another billing role) and also does at least one weekend night working as a DJ. He just cannot seem to find the motivation, energy or time to study and failed one of the tests on his first module. I totally get why he’s struggling and I’ve tried to devise a study schedule for him and I’m fine about him studying at the weekend. But it never seems to occur to him to study, e.g he had the day off Friday and didn’t bother even looking at the reading material. it’s really getting him down (but I think he’s his own worst enemy) so I feel he now needs to make a decision about it - properly commit to studying for a 2 year period and just get on with it or quit it altogether.

Most of the training cost was paid for by his previous company as part of redundancy package but if he quits he will have to pay some of it back. He’s amazing with computers and I feel he’s meant to be working in an IT career but AIBU to say he just needs to decide either way?

Is there any way to free up time and energy for him? He’s working more than FT and it can be very difficult to also study and do a qualification on top of that. So he needs downtime as well as study time. Perhaps the DJ weekend job should go?

I think anyone would struggle with working ft and studying let alone adding the weekend night in too. Yes he does need to make a decision but that must include a realistic plan of reducing some of his commitments. He does need downtime too. He won’t pass the course if he carries on and it’s unsustainable long term.
can he drop the weekend work or reduce his ft hours?
Trust me I studied for a degree, with placements, while working full time as a single parent and I honestly don’t think my mental health has recovered all these years later. I’d never put myself through that again for any job or amount of money.

If he's go no motivation to study I don't know that dropping his work to do it full time will help.

Could he potentially go part time at work?

If money is tight could you work a few more hours, an extra evening/weekend day to give him the energy and headspace to study. That way you'll be both be under a bit more strain for these two years but presumably that will ultimately pay off for all of you. And you guys are a team, right?