Sick on my own

[Whatsinthefuture]

I’ve had a nasty cough and cold this week. Felt rotten but now on the mend. It’s not covid by the way (done 2 tests). I’ve been with my partner for 3 years but we live separately. He refuses to visit or spend any time with me because I’m sick. He went to the shop for soup for me a couple of times in the first couple of days but not seen him since. I’m feeling rotten and could do with the company and a bit of tlc. Am I weird in thinking he should be supporting me more. Hasn’t even asked if I need any fruit or anything from the shops. Is this normal?

Nope I wouldn't be over if your sick. If u need stiff ask him to drop it off.

Oh for god sake. He is supposed to love you. And it share and share alike with everything when you are love .

He doesn't care bin him .

I don’t think I’m being a baby. Just used to spending time with him that’s all so now I feel crap isolated and unwell. It would be. Ice for him to show some care. I think since covid, everyone has become scared of a few germs. I went to a football match (stadium) with him a few days before getting ill. No doubt caught it from there. I didn’t even want to go but went to keep him company.

So now you’re blaming it on him for catching the cold? 😂

You sound needy.

I think since covid, everyone has become scared of a few germs.

So it’s a nasty cold that makes you feel awful until he says he doesn’t want to catch it and now it’s no big deal??
Imo people look after their partners and hang out with them when they are ill because they already live together. If I didn’t live with my partner I would probably avoid trying to get sick unnecessarily.

Wanting some company and missing him is understandable. But being annoyed that he doesn't want to come over and catch your horrible diseases seems a bit far! One of the benefits of not living together is having somewhere else to go and not catch the other person's lurgi.

If you are so unwell that you can't work then its pretty understandable that he doesn't want to catch it, especially if he works and doesn't want to also take time off.

To be honest I wouldn't be very impressed if my partner invited me round to visit if they knew had a cold / cough because why are they unnecessarily risking me getting ill as well?

Assuming you don't live somewhere rural its easy to get a same day or next day delivery of food / fruit / paracetamol from a local shop or supermarket, so I can see why he wouldn't offer - its not like 2 years ago when everyone was shopping online and it was impossible to get a slot for weeks!

If he didn't visit if you had a broken leg or something would be different of course!

YANBU, but this is most men unfortunately. It's a well documented fact that when men become very ill and unable to take care of themselves, that the women are more likely to stay, and look after them. If the WOMEN become very ill, and need care, the man is more likely to leave.

Doesn’t sound like he’s that bothered. What’s the reason the relationship hasn’t progressed if you’ve been dating 3 years?

I think he's right keeping away if you aren’t laid up in bed unable to move which doesn’t sound like you are

i was going to say he was mean not getting you supplies as I missed on my first read he's been shopping for you twice already

have you asked him for more shopping/fruit?

Here's the thing a supportive lovingnpartner would be checking up on you, dropping of yummy things or cute stuff to keep you busy magazines, craft supplies etc. FaceTime etc.

I always think what would I be doing if the tables were turned.and I make that that standard
But then I'm single because men are shit at giving enough of a fuck to convince me they are anything but using lazy bastards.
Hope you feel better soon.

If you can live without him now then perhaps keep it up.

It’s the start of.

cough/colds/flu season. Let alone COVID.

Have you had flu jab/ covid booster?

if you’ve just got a cold, you can look after yourself and protect others by not spreading it. I’d stay away too. Who wants germs?

Absolutely within his rights to stay away but I would expect video calls and the offer of bringing food and leaving it on the doorstep if needed. I'm single and immune compromised and just got through covid on my own, so it's more than possible to do, but I can understand why you may be feeling upset. Can you call him? Perhaps he thinks you're sleeping and need the rest?

yummy things or cute stuff!?!

My partner came over today to chop up a load of logs for me as I can't afford to put the heating on. I know which I'd prefer...

Have the last 2.5 years taught you anything?

Why can’t my partner cut logs AND bring yummy cute stuff!?

I digress, my partner thinks looking after any one of OUR 3 children is babysitting. Let alone when I have a cold

Obviously I call him a prick and go out anyway whilst he bemoans his babysitting. Lest anyone here thinks I’m a soft get 😂

When dh and I lived separately we wouldn't have seen each other if one was sick but would have face timed/ phone called etc and if one of us needed something dropped it round but I wouldn't have wanted him to catch anything from me and vice versa so we wouldn't have hung out. It sounds like you're just feeling rotten and a bit lonely and sorry for yourself so do something lovely like a nice bath with candles/ your fave movie/ eat all the snacks etc and just rest up.

Can you ask him to FaceTime with you
I think it's fair enough he won't come over, but he could at least show he cares

No its not normal. My dh looks after me if I'm ill, and I look after him if he is.

I understand how you feel but he doesn't want to catch your cold. I must admit when I am unwell I like being alone best of all. You can always order groceries or a meal online. I hope you are better soon.