To really dislike my nearly 3 year old?

[pumpkinfuck]

Just as the title says really. She's always been the sweetest, most pleasant little girl. We've always seen ourselves as 'blessed' with the perfect first born. The last 2-3 months she has turned into the devils spawn.

The attitude she has is unbelievable, an answer back for everything, complete defiance to anything that's asked of her, awful tantrums, the simple tasks she's always done herself have suddenly become impossible. She's just really unpleasant to be around, she makes me cry on a daily basis from pure frustration and I don't want to spend any time with her at all.

Someone tell me the threenager phase will be over soon cos I feel terrible mum guilt for disliking her so much lately!

Yabu. Of course you are BU to dislike your own 3 year old!

Ask in a less inflammatory way on Parenting. Grow up.

We've always seen ourselves as 'blessed' with the perfect first born.

I agree you have to get rid of this idea now. People arent perfect. You have been blessed with a little person who is going to grow into a complicated less than perfect adult.

This is a difficult phase - she is frustrated because she wants to be able to do and handle stuff she cant - and she is going through changes and they are about to hit her even more.

If it makes you feel better - DD (who is now 13.5) worst moment was just before she turned 3 when she had a HUGE tantrum about not being allowed to wipe snot on her grandmothers net curtain

I have a 2.5 year old who is an absolute monster at times. It’s hard but whenever she kicks off I just ignore and try to turn whatever I’m trying to get her to do into a game, like a race to get dressed or I pretend there’s a huge spider/werewolf and she instantly stops and starts joining in. I still have to do the same sometimes with DD1 who’s 5. Honestly it’s quite tiresome having to do that on days where it’s for every little thing but it’s better than the shouting, screaming and tantruming.

I don't hold her in any high regard for growing up and continuing to be the perfect first born, but any parent who wouldn't wish for that, especially in the earlier years, are liars.

Expressing that she's unpleasant to be around a lot of the time and that I don't like her company is hardly the parenting fail of the year is it. I forgot you weren't allowed to vent on here and had to be precise with every chosen vocabulary

To the ladies that can empathise and offer constructive criticism, that's what I came for, thank you! I will take the advice onboard and continue to navigate this ever changing path of parenthood!

@pumpkinfuck having had to work very hard with a DD that perfection is not something that you can achieve and that constantly striving for it is a recipe for poor mental health I am definitely not lying.

There is no such thing as perfection - I teach mine this and that home is their safe space and that sometimes you get frustrated and need to act out.

You cannot control your DD - just let her work through her frustrations and emotions and give her a safe space to do so.

And remember if you as an adult cannot control your feelings of frustration without having tears why should she