to be fed up at the fact that the minute I walk through my cm's door, her 3 year old dd tells me that my ds has done a b & c

[PanicPants]

I wasn't going to post this, but I've been thinking about it all weekend.

This week I've had

"X has been really naughty today"

"X hit me today"

"X hasn't shared today"

All of it's negative, and my cm has never said to her dd not to do it. And it's said in such a tell tale way.

AIBU? And should I say something?

What's a b&c?

How old is your DS, before I cast my inexpert opinion on your post ?

Bimbin she means the child is telling her A, B, C etc....

Lots of girls are like that I think. I remember producing that sort of list as a young child about boys in particular. I remember one mum looking really pissed off about it as well- don't blame her!

Irritating but she'll grow out of it.

Oh. I thought it would be something exciting

lol blimbin

He's 2.5 years.

I kinda just smile weakly and mumble an apology to a 3 year old ffs!

dd still does this about ds's exploits at school, and she is seven!

Now, why didn't the ^^ work?

YANBU...
I would say to CM.
Obviously I need to know about what X has been up to today, but would you mind if I hear it from you first.

I'm afraid it's a girl/age thing I think. I am a CM and both my 3 yr old mindees will say the same to their parents about my own DCs. It is very wearing but they do grow out of it, I remember all my three girls doing the same.

the ^^ has to surround each word to work

lol my 3 year old is such a tattle

"dd1 didn't share" (ie dd1 did not hand over the toy to me, immediately I wanted it)

"dd1 hit my finger" (sometimes true, sometimes not)

Oh yes, there are some 9/10/11 year olds in DS2 + DS3's class who take GREAT delight in coming on to the playground to tell various parents if their little darling has been a pita in class for whatever reason.

Sorry, that probably doesn't help.

say to the child in a stern voice "I do not want to hear you telling tales thank you very much"

perhaps the cm doesnt want to raise these small issues, but the child is upset by your childs demeanour (as one child to another so to speak?)

The answer is a lofty "Oh well, never mind" (with a slight undertone of "I don't give a shit."

I can understand what you are saying

You don't want to hear negative things about your child from another child, especially as soon as you walk in the door. Can you speak with the cm about this?

I know it is utterly unreasonable but I hate children telling tales it annoys the hell out of me.

I CM and have a dd of 2.0. I can say that it is difficult to prevent the child from saying something if it has happened, however, if my dd did do that I would tell her not to tell tales.
The other problem is that as her mother, the CM may feel that she is favouring her dd if she mentions the mentioned behaviour to you, especially if it happens daily.
I think you need to have a frank discussion with the CM about how your child does behave on the whole. Tell her that if he is naughty all the time you need to know. If she asks why you need to discuss it, just say that it has worried you that 3 times when you have collected her daughter has said he had misbehaved.

lol twiglet, can't imagine me doing that somehow.

Think I'll say something in a jokey way way then, as it is beginning to annoy a bit

I'll have to practice my use of ^ then.

why on earth not? .. she's 3 .. you're a grown-up

tell her

g'wan

tell her

Colditz - thats exactly what I'm going to do tomorrow

say "little children should be seen and not heard"

put your hair up in a bun

I'm very well practised at colditz suggestion, would be tempted to go with a "really? well I'm sure your mummy will tell me all about it if there's a problem" backed up with a smile to the child where your eyes clearly say 'so there'

flick her on the back of her head when her mum's not looking

Smile sweetly at her say "oh did he, thats not very nice is it and its not nice to tell tales either".