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Crafting is for crafters

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Longingforatikihut · 22/10/2022 08:03

Totally trivial (I think) and first world...

I am not someone who is generally good at crafts. It not a hobby I normally pursue but I saw an advert for a free one off workshop in a specific craft and I thought I would give it a try, maybe meet some new people, overcome a bit of the isolation I've been feeling lately. It's later this morning.

Yesterday a colleague asked me in passing what I was up to this weekend and I told her I was going. She is a 'crafter' and went to try and book a place for herself on lunch but it was fully booked. She then spent the afternoon telling me how I had taken the place of someone who 'took crafting seriously' and I should give her my space and on and on.

I've not given her my space and will be going. I just don't know whether it actually is bad etiquette. So i know for future. Not being a craft type person I don't know if there IS etiquette. Her reasoning was that crafter's supplement their income with their projects and thus I'm potentially taking away income by not letting them get experience in this craft.

It all sounds more and more ridiculous as I type so I'll stop there...

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 22/10/2022 08:26

How evil do you feel?

Please mention in passing on Monday that when it came to it, you couldn't be arsed to get out of bed and, as it was free, you didn't bother going after all.

ScarlettSunset · 22/10/2022 08:27

Of course you're not unreasonable!
You found something you thought you might like to do and booked a place.

You even shared the details of it with your colleague. They are being ridiculous and if it was something they really wanted to do they should have been looking out for opportunities themselves. Now you've told them where they can find it, they can book themselves on to the next one!

GonnaBeYoniThisChristmas · 22/10/2022 08:28

She’s a massive bellend.

Please go to the workshop unfettered by her idiocy and I hope you enjoy it.

Whether you do or not, be sure to tell her on Monday how great it was and what a natural flair you happen to have for the craft. 😉

ScarlettSunset · 22/10/2022 08:29

Sorry. Meant to add it might be a one off but if it was so popular it got booked up it's likely to be run again.

hesbeingabitofadick · 22/10/2022 08:29

I knit and I do cross stitch as hobbies.
I don't think of myself as a "Crafter".

She's being completely unreasonable.

Enjoy your course...who knows, it might turn into an enjoyable hobby.

RufustheFloralmissingreindeer · 22/10/2022 08:31

your friend is an idiot

how do you get into crafting if you have to be a crafter

god people are stupid

go along and have a lovely time…make something fabulous or not in my case 😀

FOJN · 22/10/2022 08:32

Sounds like she feels deprived of the free part rather than the craft part. She's being ridiculous, ignore her.

Enjoy the workshop, you might be at the start of a new hobby. If you don't enjoy this one try another, there are so many crafts to try.

I haven't experienced any competitiveness or unpleasantness at the classes and workshops I've been to. I've found other crafter's really encouraging and friendly, perhaps I'm not moving in "serious" crafter circles.

Howeverdoyouneedme · 22/10/2022 08:34

This reminds me of an aqua aerobics class I went to a few years ago on my day off. A woman came up to me and said I’d taken ‘Marjory’s’ spot. I said ‘I booked it online’ and she replied, ‘we come every week’.

InsertPunHere · 22/10/2022 08:34

She’s a idiot. Ignore her.

Bestcatmum · 22/10/2022 08:35

What absolute garbage. I'm a serious crafter and if I missed a place on the course it would be down to my own stupidity not applying early enough there is no way I'd be badgering other people to give up their place. Some people are just too entitled to be true.

maslinpan · 22/10/2022 08:35

I vote for either saying you couldn't be bothered to go in the end, or that you didn't get all that much out of it and were on your phone most of the time. It depends quite how much you would enjoy winding your colleague up.

PrettyMuchBollocks · 22/10/2022 08:35

Sounds like she’s a CCF- crafty cheeky fucker. Ignore her op, hope you enjoy your class.

TinySaltLick · 22/10/2022 08:36

Craft the words 'office's best crafter' on to something and then visibly glue it to your desk

Summerfun54321 · 22/10/2022 08:36

I’d want to take a photo of me doing the craft at the workshop with my middle finger stuck up and send her the photo saying “craft on this you motherf*cker”.

Prescottdanni123 · 22/10/2022 08:36

You get some crafters who love and are skilled at all types of crafts. You get some crafters who are only interested in one. This could be your craft. You won't until you get there and try. All crafty people have to get into it somehow. Workshops are a brilliant way to try it out. You probably won't be the only one trying it for the first time. A lot of crafters just do it for fun or a pass time. You are doing absolutely nothing wrong. Go and have fun. I'm a crafter and occasionally sell what I make. I love seeing people trying to get into crafts and enjoy sharing it with them. Your colleague's line of thinking is weird

SpinMeRightRoundBabyRightRound · 22/10/2022 08:37

Your colleague has a right cheek! She’s talking out of her hat.

Enjoy your class! And if you’re in NI check out Inspiring Yarns who exist for exactly the purposes you’ve described.

EveningOverRooftops · 22/10/2022 08:38

Your friend is an arsehole

I teach crafts. I deal with newbies to the experienced. Everyone is there for the same reason. To craft, to learn new skills and meet new people.

we don’t gatekeep.

Kiitos · 22/10/2022 08:39

If she’s SO into crafts surely she would have known about the workshop?
Ignore her. There are definitely some strange attitudes in some crafting communities, just rise above it.

pensionconfusion · 22/10/2022 08:40

Ignore her and enjoy your workshop 😁

misskatamari · 22/10/2022 08:40

What a complete Wally she is. Ignore completely. I craft (I’ve tried pretty much every one going and have a few core ones I mostly flit between). Most crafters LOVE to see new people getting into the hobby and finding something they love to do. That’s exactly what your course will be about and I’m sure you’ll meet some lovely people. Your colleague is jealous and a dick!

PerfectlyPreservedQuagaarWarrior · 22/10/2022 08:40

How does she know you aren't going to discover a talent for this craft and start supplementing your income that way too? Ridiculous.

Chaiandchocolate · 22/10/2022 08:41

She only has sour grapes because she couldn’t get a place. She’s an idiot and immature - go along and enjoy!

Asdavaluesausage · 22/10/2022 08:41

But you are a crafter. As a crafter, I say anyone who wants to try something is a crafter. It’s not like there’s an exam. Your colleague is an idiot.

SmotYci · 22/10/2022 08:44

She's a twat. Crafting is for everyone, it's not about the end product it's about the enjoyment and learning new skills.

My friend runs craft classes as part of a big organisation. The aim is to reach as many peoole, and give everyone an opportunity.

MajesticElephant · 22/10/2022 08:45

Ignore her she is a horrid person. Most crafters, myself included, are supportive of each other and keen to share our knowledge (even on those who don’t want it sometimes 😂).

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