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AIBU?

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To not want to keep having meetings with people that are not connected to my work?

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janeseymour78 · 21/10/2022 23:01

I work for a small team in a bigger company that has recently lost 2 colleagues, leaving just me and my line manager. Before then the 4 of us would meet for a stand up every morning which made complete sense as our work is interconnected and I worked closely with them daily.

Since my 2 colleagues left, leaving me and line manager, two senior staff members have started joining this meeting every morning, 5 days a week. My work is not connected to them in any way and we don't have interactions beyond 'can I get you a coffee?' in the office. The timing is odd & now 2 things are happening:

  1. When challenges do come up, I no longer feel as comfortable expressing them because I want to talk about it directly with my line manager and don't actually want these others who have no connection to my work knowing all the details of my work.

  2. Because one of the senior colleagues is an incessant talker I now find the dynamic has changed and I get hardly any time to talk.

On top of this, one of them regularly approaches me, asking if I want to discuss any concerns at work. I suspect it's because we are short staffed and I think they worry my line manager won't be totally present . AIBU to be annoyed at such a big change to the daily routine?

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janeseymour78 · 21/10/2022 23:13

Anyway I'm not exactly sure how to approach it yet (advice appreciated).

Although I don't work with them at all my line manager works with them more directly. So it almost feels like they are the new team with me added on. And the fact there has been no explanation as to why it's happened is a bit disconcerting in itself as it's a big change.

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user1471503652 · 21/10/2022 23:24

Could it be the 2 Senior managers have been tasked to join the meeting to support you during the time the 2x posts are vacant? I would mention this to your manager in your next 121, say you feel the stand ups have lost their direction a little bit and you're not finding them as motivating and useful as before.

99% of the meetings I attend are totally pointless and could all be summed up in an email, but luckily my boss doesn't do the daily stand up style ones!

janeseymour78 · 21/10/2022 23:41

@user1471503652 I think you might be right - but no one has actually said as much! It was literally my last colleague left and the next day they joined and there was no explanation.

I've also asked if this is a permanent change but wasn't given a direct answer. Although I'm outgoing at work I'm also quite private - so suddenly being expected to share all the aspects of my work with 2 senior colleagues feels uncomfortable to me.

Actually I haven't had a 1 to 1 with my boss since this started so I need to insist on booking them in.

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