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Original poster

For thinking our friend's new GF is rude?

29 replies

TheQueenOfHearts · 21/10/2022 12:24

DH has been good friend with E for many years now, even before we started dating, and both of them normally meet with another friend, B, to watch the footie or catch up over beers and food...
A few years ago, DH and I started hanging out more with E (who was then single) and B and his girlfriend. The 5 of us became really close, and usually did things together, dinners at each others places, nights out etc.

E met this girl last year and they quickly got a baby which made their relationship quite serious. Of course she became part of our group of friends and it was all 3 couples meeting up etc.
E's girlfriend is having a big birthday party in a few weeks and she invited DH and I. I found out yesterday that B and his girlfriend had not been invited.

AIBU for thinking this is an awkward move and potentially quite rude to B and his GF?

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AnApparitionQuipped · 21/10/2022 12:25

What do B and his girlfriend think?

Sapphire387 · 21/10/2022 12:26

Depends why... they might have had a falling out? This is an issue for E and his girlfriend, and B and his girlfriend (potentially)... it's not your problem tbh!

BattenburgDonkey · 21/10/2022 12:27

If I were you I’d just be thankful that whilst awkward being stuck near the middle of it, it’s none of your business, and leave the 2 other couples to it. No need to take sides.

HangOnToYourself · 21/10/2022 12:28

There must be a reason? Awaiting massive drop feed....

Original poster
TheQueenOfHearts · 21/10/2022 12:31

Talking to B and his GF they are also saying it's a bit awkward and can't quite understand why, but nobody dares asking?
Definitely no fall out...

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OP83 · 21/10/2022 12:32

I agree with the above, there must be a reason (and if so, I'm sure that both parties know that reason so best not get involved).

ihatethefuckingmuffin · 21/10/2022 12:33

Perhaps she doesn’t like one or both of them and considering it’s her party she can include who she wants to.

partners don’t have to be friends with each other’s friends.

pinkfondu · 21/10/2022 12:33

What sort of party is it?

AnApparitionQuipped · 21/10/2022 12:34

TheQueenOfHearts · 21/10/2022 12:31

Talking to B and his GF they are also saying it's a bit awkward and can't quite understand why, but nobody dares asking?
Definitely no fall out...

It might be as simple as numbers - if they can only accommodate/pay for so many, B and his GF might have been pruned.

SleeplessInEngland · 21/10/2022 12:34

E met this girl last year and they quickly got a baby which made their relationship quite serious

This made me laugh out loud. Yeah, that's one way of putting it.

Calandor · 21/10/2022 12:35

Sounds like she doesn't like them that much. Not your problem.

tandmoo · 21/10/2022 12:36

Where did they got a baby from?

Pinkywoo · 21/10/2022 12:37

tandmoo · 21/10/2022 12:36

Where did they got a baby from?

Co-op, they're on offer.

HangOnToYourself · 21/10/2022 12:40

SleeplessInEngland · 21/10/2022 12:34

E met this girl last year and they quickly got a baby which made their relationship quite serious

This made me laugh out loud. Yeah, that's one way of putting it.

I lost it a bit at this point as well 😂

2bazookas · 21/10/2022 12:43

MYOB. Its her business who she invites to her party.

bravotango · 21/10/2022 12:47

Co-op, they're on offer.

😂

twinklyeyes · 21/10/2022 12:48

Maybe she's mostly invited her own friends and just invited a couple of her partners friends too, I'm sure she hasn't given it as much thought as you have, it's one day enjoy it and move on.

girlmom21 · 21/10/2022 12:56

Maybe she doesn't like B and his GF as much as she likes you, or E specifically asked her to invite you two.

Why can nobody ask E?

YellowTreeHouse · 21/10/2022 12:58

Why does this fall to be the girlfriends fault? Why is she the rude one?

Also, it isn’t rude to not invite someone to a party that you don’t want there.

pictish · 21/10/2022 13:22

Well given that E knows they’ve been left off the list, why not take it up with him? They are his friends and he hasn’t insisted on their attendance.

pictish · 21/10/2022 13:24

2bazookas · 21/10/2022 12:43

MYOB. Its her business who she invites to her party.

It’s THEIR business who THEY invite to THEIR party.

The wedding isn’t HER party is it?

Original poster
TheQueenOfHearts · 21/10/2022 13:24

Hahaha loved the messages about the baby, it did feel a bit like that 😅
The party is basically just a dinner in a restaurant.
But yeah, agree that I shouldn't try and overthink it... Thanks

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Anniefrenchfry · 21/10/2022 13:24

Why are you blaming his girlfriend< why’s she the rude one, is it as you don’t like women?

ReginaPerrin · 21/10/2022 13:35

pictish · 21/10/2022 13:24

It’s THEIR business who THEY invite to THEIR party.

The wedding isn’t HER party is it?

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It’s her birthday party, not their wedding.

girlmom21 · 21/10/2022 13:38

Are they paying for everyone's dinner?

A restaurant dinner is completely different to a party and makes a lot more sense as to why numbers are limited.