to think that dp shouldnt be secretivly chatting and flirting with someone online?

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He is going to break your heart -of course YANBU

YANBU. Not at all. I would be furious at this kind of behaviour. And you are not giving him 'mixed messages' - it's up to him to do the right thing and moderate his own behaviour, not rely on someone else to do it for him.
And as for 'probably' not meeting with her... for you.
This is not you being unreasonable, he however most definitely is.

YANBU atall!!! I couldnt handle that

Kick him out he sounds like a twat, a disrepectful twat at that !

Chatting to some slapper on th internet while his daughter was opening her christmas present is absolutly inexcusable imo if it were My df he'd be out on he arse.

Well said worzsel.

I think he is being very disrespectful.

Can you not log on as him and delete his accounts????

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Log on as him and get him kicked of the site

oh you are going to get hurt, and he's being a prick.

Read back your op, and pretend it was from me for instance, what would you say.

He sounds lovely

mixed messages, my arse, talk about chucking it back at you.

"He is known for sending pics of things he shouldnt and for having cyber sex with women.
I asked if he would ever meet up with her (she lives about 20mins away) and he said probably not"

i am hearing big, loud alarm bells

is this the same man who thikns your relationship promlems are all your fault and wants you to have anger management

trust me, if my DH behaved like this, he'd wish i;d had anger management!!

so he is know for sending pics of a sexual nature , i am presuming

and having cyber sex

and he said he would probably not meet her

not even got the damn courtesy to say no way at all

you are a young woman

you deserve better

He absolutly is cheating on you as he's 100% betraying your trust. What kind of idiot is he if he thinks that exchanging flirty text wtih another women is ok when your in a relationship ?

How terrible for you, you must be in turmoil

Seriously though, if i were you i'd kick the sad git out.. if only to let him know how much he's hurting you.

trust me, if my DH behaved like this, he'd wish i;d had anger management!! ROFL lulu.

oh dear oh dear.

i would kick him out before he walks all over you any more than he already has.

he is blatantly betraying you, and you let him 'speach' you more than once. he knows he can get away with it, and he repeatedly does it.

it hurts, but he has v little respect for you and that will only diminish. you need to get rid.

you deserve MUCH better. demand it.

Sounds like he's never going to change and you'll never completely trust him. He has no respect for you, and hasn't committed to this relationship with you. Why stay with someone like that?

No, YANBU. He is not bothered about your feelings.
You deserve more.

i would not put up with this if it is harmless then why on x mas day is he taking time to talk with her when he is at home with family

i thin k for your own sanity you need to ask him to leave i know sounds harsh but he has been lting and technically cheating and if you do nothing you are allowing him to walk over you and he will not change

if he loved you that much and new how hurt you were he would have stopped he does it because he knows he can

show him you will not be taken the p* out of and if he loves you that much he will change and come back if not thank your lucky stars

can you be sure he hasnt met her already if she lives so close could that be the thanks for the other night?

sorry you feel this way and i'm sorry for him doing this to ytou but maybe now you can see you deserve better

trust has been broken beyond forgiveness as not first time he has done it after promising he would stop