To ask how you effectively manage to rely on anyone?

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Aside from my DH and a very small handful of people I find myself withdrawing very slowly from the world and everyone in it.

I am just struggling to rely on and trust anyone except myself.

Is this how it is supposed to be and should be?

It's making me quite bitter and resilient but to the point where I don't want to help anyone - it's making me cut throat and I know this isn't a good way to be.

How do you manage with this?

I only rely on myself, dh, family and that’s it really, maybe a small handful of friends.

i help out but never expect anything in return. I think that’s just life really

do everything with a good heart, expect nothing in return and you’ll never be disappointed

@Tomanycarrots the issue is I can't help expecting people to behave in a certain way back that's the problem, and if they're not going to it makes me not want to have a good heart

I too only rely on a handful of people. It must be a mindset thing because I feel grateful that I have a handful of people of rely on. Not everyone is so lucky. I actually feel lucky to be able to rely on those I do.

The point of helping people isn't to get anything back. It's just to be kind. People rarely react how you expect. But it's better to be kind than to not care. Maybe volunteer doing some charity work to rebuild your well?