In-Laws visit when showing Covid symptoms

[Valery37]

In-Laws informed us they'd visit and stay at ours for 8 days... we had not specifically invited them.

on their arrival day, father in law showing Covid symptoms but he dismissed these as catching a cold from the aircon during the 6 hour car journey.

I encourage him to test but he insisted that it was not Covid. Same on day 2... then on day 3, he received a text from a friend who tested positive. Finally, he decides to test and surprise: he is positive.

They decide to leave our house following day but in the meantime continues to use the shared spaces as if nothing had happened, has dinner at the table with us, watches tv in living room etc etc (except wearing the face mask with his nose and mouth uncovered!!...).

I find his approach totally selfish and I'm quite upset by his attitude....not caring about my health or my husband / children's health...

AIBU we need to get used to living with Covid...

AINBU we should not visit people's houses if we are ill...

I think I would have been silently angry about them bringing any bug into the house, regardless if it was covid or not. But I think I would have been more angry about them inviting themselves over for 8 days in the first place.

This.

I love how the first two replies are the complete polar opposite of each other 😆just shows the range of people's views now. I think I fall somewhere in the middle. We will have to live with COVID as another seasonal illness alongside flu but that doesn't mean people shouldn't use common courtesy and stay away when symptomatic if possible or at least check with the person first how they feel about seeing them before visiting. Just coming to stay without mentioning they aren't well is pretty off given we have just lived through a pandemic.
Think it also depends a lot on individual circumstances i.e. any vulnerable people in the house or would potentially giving COVID to the person they are visiting effect their work (e.g. most NHS workers still gave to stay off work).

It's just a case of using common sense and being considerate to others really but some people struggle with that and a pandemic isn't change who they are 🤷‍♀️

Can't say I'd be bothered either

Yanbu. They should at least have asked if you minded them coming when they were poorly. If I was going to stay in someone’s home I wouldn’t go if I was ill. My husband and I are just recovering from Covid. It floored both of us. I was surprised how nasty it is even after 3 vaccinations and both of us otherwise fit and healthy. Why would you unnecessarily inflict that on others just because we should “get on with living with Covid”. We are both self-employed so that 2 full weeks of income lost and if someone had thoughtlessly brought it into my home (knowing they were unwell) I think I’d be quite annoyed.

I'd be fuming. X

Well I would be bothered. I don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t be. You could be laid up in bed for days. Why should your life be on hold if you can avoid it?

Covid or not, I don't want to get sick full stop. I had covid recently and thankfully it was fairly mild but it floored my DH, he was in bed for 4 full days and even after that he's still feeling very tired.

To the people who don't give a shit, you don't mind getting ill?🤔

YABU. Covid is here to stay, nobody needs to test, it's not a big deal..... just get on with your life and don't make a fuss over nothing.
However, anyone who invites themselves to stay for 8 days IS pretty annoying, to be fair.

I cannot believe that people would willing stay at another persons home when ill! Pre-covid or now!!! Cold, flu D&V or covid!!! Its selfish and unreasonable!!!

Covid not a big deal? Maybe not for some. People who have been bereaved or who have Long Covid may feel differently.

In-Laws informed us they'd visit and stay at ours for 8 days... we had not specifically invited them.

I would be more annoyed about this tbh...

Whether other people are ok with covid or not if you are bothered by it then others should respect their wishes. Much like if somebody wants you to remove shoes at the door, only selfish people will keep them on.

I’d be furious. For 2.5 years my whole family were very careful to keep my mum safe (she suffers badly with asthma). She got it and was thankfully fine. We decided to take the plunge to ‘live with covid’ and my husband was hospitalised for 5 days and nearly died… We continue to live with masks and constant hand-washing, also reducing contact with large crowds like family get togethers.

If somebody came to my home and didn’t respect my wishes then they would be gone. I think if you feel angry about this then you need to make your boundaries known.

YABU you can't keep using covid as an excuse not to see people

Depends doesn't it
I'm CEV and too right I won't see people with colds/flu/Covid
I get free tests so anyone who is coming into my home does one, it's the best way I have to protect myself

Eh? Covid would be a pretty rubbish excuse if you don't want to see someone. For most people It only lasts for a fortnight at most.

I wouldn't get worked up about it, and i wouldn't have even entered my mind to make him test 🤷🏼‍♀️

If you didn't want them to visit you should have said when they said they were coming

No way would I let anybody invite themselves to stay at my home for 8 days! If they had arrived loaded with the cold let alone COVID, I’d be furious. Selfish idiots.

I do t get people dismissing COVID like it’s of no consequence - two friends of mine are very ill with it - they are not in the vulnerable category. Hacking cough, headaches, sweating, unable to do anything - hardly a laugh!