To be a bit exhausted by my DS14

[Upthebracket22]

I feel terrible writing this as I love my DS more than anything but it’s hard going at the moment.

Hes 15 in January and has delayed puberty for which he’s had tests. He’s really unhappy that he’s small and it’s affecting everything and it’s been like this for 2 years. He had a rough time in the pandemic & had a bit of counselling.

He cries every day about everything - I feel like all my energy goes on trying to chivvy him along, help him, cheer him up, support him. He’s unhappy in school & we are trying to get support. He plays in a footy team and because he’s small, he cries after every game. I said to him it might be better to stop as it’s having a really negative effect on him. Literally nothing makes him happy.

he’s actually doing well in school & the teachers love him as he’s well behaved and hard working.

but it’s SO hard at home. He’s got good mates but he cries at the slightest thing with them too.

I genuinely don’t know what to do!

Oh @Upthebracket22 I am so sorry you are going through this. I don't have wide advice as such, but I have similar with my nearly 15 year old DD (and it was the same with my now adult DS). It is utterly exhausting. And I have found myself snapping and being irritable because I just can't change anything.
One thing I've done which has helped is set up online therapy sessions. I checked the register for counsellors and my daughter has a call fortnightly which she looks forward to and it at least makes me feel like I'm doing something useful. For a bloody change!

Wise not wide!

It’s really hard when your child is struggling - especially with something you can’t control. It seems to take the fun out of life - I am and out of this OP.
I try and find things that bring out something in my kids that they didn’t know was there - to build confidence. It’s hard though depending on where you live.
For example, I would get him into something caving - things that are better if you are smaller. Also focus on non physical - like music?

I completely understand DS14 sounds very similar. No sign of puberty and has had quite excessive weight gain in the last 6 months. He does get very emotional & quickly can break in to tears. He has a good group of friends but they all look like young men and my boy ...well he still looks about 10. No advice - sorry, it's such a difficult time with all his peers shooting up and becoming adults but our boys seem to be left behind.