I’ve been removed from a Facebook group, and I’m just interested in opinions as to whether people think the group admins are right in doing this?
It’s a private support group for a medical condition I have. It’s all women, due to the nature of the condition.
The official UK charity for this condition used to have a forum on their website years ago, that was the way you would connect with others experiencing the same problems, and offer/seek advice. Apparently, use of the forum was dwindling significantly and so they moved to using Facebook.
So, they have their primary Facebook page, but then also on the page are
links to (geographical) regional sub-groups.
These groups are managed/moderated by other group members, not people who work for the charity.
I’m not going to say I’m on the group chatting away every single day, because I’m not… but when I’m in the middle of a particularly bad flareup of my health problem, I do go on there for support, to ask advice, and if anyone else is struggling I will always offer any support I can in return.
Around once a month, the main admin girl organises an in-person meet up. On the group rules, there is absolutely nothing listed about being obliged to attend these.
She sends out an event invite via the Facebook page, and she expects a response from every person. She’s constantly putting posts on saying that she is yet to hear from members regarding whether they are coming or not. So there’s always a lot of posts where people feel obliged to come and give details about why they cannot attend.
She post photos of the events (usually a meal in a pub) after they have happened, and I’d say normally only a small handful of maximum of five or six people ever attend. I am unsure as to exactly how many people are in the group, I think there are a couple of hundred. So I can’t say for sure that she has removed every single one of us who has never attended an event! (because it’s a private group and I’m no longer in it!)
Reasons I have not wanted to go to any meet ups are because if I’m being totally honest, I do find things like this with people I don’t know absolutely excruciating… I hate the thought of eating in front of people I’ve never met before… and more often than not I’m actually genuinely busy on the day they are happening.
When turning down invitations, I’ve always been very polite about this. I have never got into conflict with anybody on the group at any point in the past. And I’ve always been very courteous and thanked people who have replied to my posts.
But then, there was a post the other day on the group saying that people have repeatedly failed to attend the events will be removed! And a few hours later, I could no longer access it and I noticed I was no longer a member.
Were they Right in removing me?! :(