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Time off work for illness one…

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Aperolsprizter · 19/10/2022 12:20

Just posting maybe because I am Ill and vulnerable but…
I barely have time off work but I have had one day off for covid and now three days off this week for some unidentified flu that has absolutely knocked me off my feet.

im type one diabetic as well, and live alone so have to be really vigilant that I’m not going downhill diabetes wise. I work super hard normally and I’ve been in hosp after a 111 call this week so I know im not being dramatic but I’ve only been in the job 8 months.

Does this sound too terrible? (Wipes brow of flu and anxiety sweats)

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Scrambledeggsontoast9 · 19/10/2022 12:29

I don’t mean this in a sarky or cheeky way, but I’m not 100% sure on what you are asking, is it if you’re being unreasonable to take a day off for being sick?

if so, you are absolutely NOT being unreasonable. You sound like you’ve been very unwell and with the complication of the T1D it’s completely reasonable to take a sick day. That’s what sick days are for!

just think of it that you are doing a selfless thing by staying off sick and not going in and spreading the flu to everyone.

hope you feel better soon!

ComtesseDeSpair · 19/10/2022 12:33

If you’re genuinely too sick to work then of course it isn’t unreasonable to take time off. If you’re asking in terms of how it will be viewed by work then it depends on your company policy. Some would treat 4 days in eight months as a trigger for monitoring, others - particularly post-Covid - much more leniently.

Gunner1510 · 19/10/2022 13:03

I don’t think so. I think most places do a 3 separate periods or 10 days total in a rolling 12 month period as a trigger for review and I don’t think your sickness sounds bad, it’s only 4 days it’s not that much at all. I also imagine your manager will have heard in your voice you are ill so I wouldn’t worry about it!

As someone currently suffering with a horrendous cold because a couple of people in my office decided to drag themselves in while ill and spread it round (it is possible to WFH in our role as well which makes it even more annoying) I don’t think any of your colleagues will be bothered either and will likely be happy you’ve stayed home.

I think people are much more understanding of this post covid and I cannot stand the workplace martyr who has to drag themselves in no matter what and then passes on their germs to everyone else.

NightmareSlashDelightful · 19/10/2022 13:06

Is someone/your workplace making you feel unreasonable for taking time off for illness?

sandytooth · 19/10/2022 13:10

If you're too sick to work then you're too sick to work. You can't really be unreasonable about it unless you aren't sick. And you are. So I don't understand your AIBU. You can't be unsick.

sandytooth · 19/10/2022 13:11

A lot of places aren't counting the covid sickness as they don't want people in with covid but I think each place varies.

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Aperolsprizter · 19/10/2022 14:27

No, no one is making me feel bad - I just hate having to call in, especially when it’s one of those where you have to ring in each morning to be like no, still not coming back.

im genuinely really poorly especially because of my diabetes but I’m trying to
climb the ladder and worried i look bad 🥹

OP posts:
sandytooth · 19/10/2022 14:29

Aperolsprizter · 19/10/2022 14:27

No, no one is making me feel bad - I just hate having to call in, especially when it’s one of those where you have to ring in each morning to be like no, still not coming back.

im genuinely really poorly especially because of my diabetes but I’m trying to
climb the ladder and worried i look bad 🥹

I hate that too. I get all stressed in thr morning before I make the call. Make yourself a cup of tea, ring and get it out the way then drink it :)

Take care

Dotjones · 19/10/2022 14:35

Just tell them the truth. A decent employer would rather someone who is genuinely ill stay away to get better, not least because it will be ten times worse if they bring a bad cold/flu/covid into the workplace and spread it around the staff.

Cruisebabe1 · 11/01/2023 14:17

Gunner1510 · 19/10/2022 13:03

I don’t think so. I think most places do a 3 separate periods or 10 days total in a rolling 12 month period as a trigger for review and I don’t think your sickness sounds bad, it’s only 4 days it’s not that much at all. I also imagine your manager will have heard in your voice you are ill so I wouldn’t worry about it!

As someone currently suffering with a horrendous cold because a couple of people in my office decided to drag themselves in while ill and spread it round (it is possible to WFH in our role as well which makes it even more annoying) I don’t think any of your colleagues will be bothered either and will likely be happy you’ve stayed home.

I think people are much more understanding of this post covid and I cannot stand the workplace martyr who has to drag themselves in no matter what and then passes on their germs to everyone else.

Work place martyr.. brilliant🤣🤣🤣🤣

DilemmaDelilah · 11/01/2023 14:43

I ended up having most of December off sick 😞. I was in hospital for 5 days then tried to go back to work the following Monday and lasted half a day before going off sick for another couple of weeks (heart problems). It is what it is. I couldn't help it. I'm back at work now but if I am ill again I won't hesitate to go off sick again. I suppose it does help that I work for the same hospital I am being treated at though......

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