Not really a aibu, I just need to vent.
Bit of background, df recently diagnosed with acute kidney failure and has been put on transplant list and awaiting dialysis, dm has suffered with panic attacks since I can remember, never left the house because she would have a panic attack and faint, finally saw a doctor around 6 years ago and started medication which helped massively, then a few weeks ago started to struggle again and is again finding it difficult to leave the house. Dp gp has had copd for many years and last week we were told she is at end of life so we are all caring for her between eachother. Me and dp have two boys, 2 and 7. I work 3 days a week, dp works full time doing days and afters. My parents look after 2 year old whilst I'm at work and pick up my oldest from school on these days too. My work keep arranging meetings after work, so these are generally 6-8pm, and they all seem to be when dp is on afters, he doesn't finish whole 10pm. Yet work can't understand why I'm frustrated and struggling to attend meetings when I say to them dp is at work and I'm not asking my parents they have enough on. And work in general is very stressful atm. I'm feeling like I'm reaching my breaking point mentally. My main problem is work just not understanding when they're asking me to work longer hours or stay for meeting etc. it's driving me mad.