How often are you sick?

[Merryoldgoat]

I’m feeling very low tonight and a bit melodramatic but I feel awful and it’s seemingly never ending.

this year I’ve had two nasty bouts of bronchitis. Covid, what I think was flu a month ago and now I have a cold that it really nasty.

My kids are constantly sick and I’m just at the end of my tether.

I’m having to miss very important work, it’s the second time in 6 weeks I’m off for my own sickness and it’s just awful.

How I can I stop getting every bug the kids get?

And yes, it’s a ‘cold’ but I’m wheezing, I have a fever, hoarse voice and sore throat and my nose is like a tap. There’s absolutely no way I could go into work. I’d be sent home instantly.

This is on top of chronic conditions which I manage ok and both boys having ASD.

I’m actually crying as I type this.

sorry. I don’t know what I’m even posting for.

Sorry I don't have any useful advice but sorry to hear you are feeling so rough. Rest up and get better soon

Thank you. I just feel stupid.

Lots lately but I think it's due to stress. I've never suffered with it before and I think I have to accept that it is stress and it's having an effect on me. I am not sure what to do about it to be honest.

I think I'm peri menopausal and I've been suffering with anxiety and getting worked up over things that just don't matter. It's affecting me now as in my body is telling me.

I'm sorry your feeling awful. I hope it passes soon. Could this be you also? I mean with everything you have said it would be hard not to be stressed also which is manifesting in how you are feeling.

I hope you feel better soon.

It's difficult I have one dc who is always off sick she's been of 10 days since September!
I get every cold, bug, sore throat going.
I have no advice either but I know how you feel.

I totally feel you OP!
As a child I was very rarely sick. I have a very servere phobia of sickness. I don't know how I would've managed it'll I was sicky child! Well my two sons are the opposite. Last Christmas they had 2 sickness bugs EACH in the space of a month and one since then! I am absolutely dreading this winter :( They have both also had 3 colds and tonsillitis each since going back to school and nursery. It's relentless! I find it's so very overwhelming :(

@limitededitionbarbie

yes it could be. I’m 44 so likely peri and feel very stressed - like I’m so stretched one more thing and I’ll just snap but not anger, just breakdown.

@stillinflipflops

my older boy had 5 days last month and the little one will have had more than that by the end of the week. I just feel broken. It’s so hard isn’t it?

@peanutbutterontoast7

Thar sounds awful - sickness bugs are the worst.

Last winter they came home on a Monday, one with a cold and one with D&V. By Wednesday they had swapped and that was a week I truly cried every day.

@Merryoldgoat I went for blood tests at my doctors and nothing showed for peri.

However I took my Dd in for something else whole other story but she asked in general how I was and we were chatting about peri and I mentioned my bloods had shown nothing and she said to come in for a few blood tests at different times of the month. She said it doesn't always show up.
Maybe something to ask about.

I do think I am peri as I've been tracking argument's and my moods with a with a period tracker as things are not too great currently and there is-definitely a pattern emerging that I am argumentive and feeling more down just before my period. It might not be peri but it could be hormonal I think as my body gets older.

This might not be why you feel like you do but I do think it's worth looking into.

I don't feel ready to look into hrt yet and my doctor wouldn't prescribe it anyway right now but I am going to look at some natural remedies for now and see if it helps.

I really hope you feel better soon. It's crap your run of things lately and I hope it picks up for you. Xxxx

Thank you @limitededitionbarbie for your kindness x

No problem op I've seen you on here lots over the years and I think you may have even given me some advice or kind comments over the years which have helped me in in one form or another so I'm glad I could repay it in a small way.

I'm feeling similar myself so if anyone can take away anything and gain something positive from a comment on here from anyone I'm glad. Makes the world slightly better for someone somewhere if someone feels better for a bit.

I'm 43.

Hormones are a fucker and I think till you get to that age where they change you can't understand totally as it's literally not like you. Until it is 🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️.

I'm struggling to get my Dd referred because of a month long uti, where we have Been referred before, work is shit and I'm rowing with my DH as if it's of the same importance because he doesnt make the bed right. I know it's not important. And it's not what I am usually like, I'd just remake it and laugh but these days I am just seeing red.

Probably stress, worry, peri. All of it combined is hard. It will pass.

I've started to go to church of a Sunday. I like our vicar. I like the older people on the congregation. I do bits and pieces for them like cooking or making decorations for them. I'm not sure about what I believe and my vicar gets that and doesn't press the point but it's an hour to just reflect even if I don't listen to the whole thing.

I’m also peri, it’s just awful. I literally used to be Ill every week but I’ve found since stating taking vit D, vit C, B12 complex & zinc, I feel a lot better. Also, reducing stress has helped too.

OP I don't intend to minimise the fact you're feeling ill but have you taken anything to manage your symptoms? I get symptoms like those several times a year ... But I manage them with paracetamol, ibuprofen etc, and often find once I've been up for an hour or two and the medicine has kicked in I feel fine, and I can get to work.
Paracetamol and/or ibuprofen should be knocking symptoms like those down a fair a bit and getting you functional again, and if they aren't, you need to get to the doctor and find out why those aren't working.

You're not choosing to be ill, OP.
Being ill is hard enough, please don't blame yourself for it.

Sorry to hear you're not well OP.
I'm not sick enough. I work 60 hours a week and do it all at home for DC & partner. I wanna be sick enough to warrant several days in bed.

Despite being diagnosed with a degenerative neurological condition in 2017 the last time I was off absent poorly was 2013, I just don’t really get ill. My children are the same, they had very few days off and at prom, much to their embarrassment got best attendance. That being said some people are more susceptible to picking up bugs especially when run down and I’ve always had empathy with someone especially when it’s one thing after another. Rest up and don’t give yourself a hard time. You can’t help being poorly.

@Merryoldgoat oh my goodness I don't know how you coped, I would've been an absolute nervous wreck! Obviously I hate the thought of any illness but I just cannot cope at all with sick 😳
It's just so stressful isn't it because life doesn't not give you enough time to be poorly 🙈

Hope you're ok lovely xx

@Lightsoutlondon

my husband calls me the The Drug Hoarder - I’m fully dosed but it’s sensible to check. People refusing to medicate when necessary drives me insane.

Thank you all.

I’m hoping I’ll fall asleep soon as I seem to have stopped sneezing as much.

Hopefully today was the bad one and I’m on the mend tomorrow.

Touch wood nothing at all since a two-month covid battle last autumn. Not even a sniffle 🤞

I was a very sickly child but never had any kind of proper medicine. I didn't know calpol existed until I had kids. Adult me was never Ill.

Then I was working with children, and I was so Ill it just was relentless.

Now I dose up on vitamin c , echinacea and have the windows open all night all weathers. Seems to work!

Very rarely for me but after I had my c section I used to get sick so many times all winter for a few years - usually with chest infections. I think the surgery pulled me down! I've had 2 hip replacements this year, which are apparently major surgeries so fingers crossed I'll be OK this winter!

It’s just miserable I’m really sorry. You seem to get years like that.

I'm chronically ill from several autoimmune conditions so I would say 7 days a week. If you just mean colds, flu & stomach bugs I would say very rarely.

This might sound odd but when you're well do you inhale through your nose or your mouth? Your nose has more useful features to stop a virus getting in.

I was a constantly unwell child (off school 40%) with chest infections and other viruses. As a teenager someone spotted that I was a mouth breather and encouraged me to stop doing it. Since then things improved (I strongly doubt this was the only factor - it also tied in with me getting more exercise). Could be worth addressing if this applies to you?
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It's definitely not a magic wand though as being in close proximity to our own lurgy riddled kids means we're sitting ducks for some of it!

Another thing is ventilation and making sure you've got windows open. One of my concerns for this winter is that lots of people are going to seal their houses up because of the energy crisis and there'll be more illness at higher viral loads due to lack of ventilation.

Very rarely, I've always kept fit with some form of exercise and not massively fastidious with germs. I think my immune system is strong as a result

I have 2 toddlers and for the last year have been catching every single bug going round and have been absolutely exhausted. I had blood taken and it turns out that I have low iron. I've been on iron tablets for a fortnight and feel much better already. Please get your iron checked. I wouldn't have believed it was such a simple fix. £1.85 for a months supply of iron tablets and I feel like a new person just 2 weeks in. Good luck op. I hope you're feeling better soon.