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Could I sense that she needed me

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Itsonlytenweeks · 18/10/2022 19:47

Dd, 4 has started pre school part time, around a month ago. She cried the first few times going in as she said she just wanted to be with me, but enjoyed it once there.
The last couple of weeks, she’s gone in fine and all ok ( although she often mentions briefly before that she doesn’t want to go)
Today she went in easily, all was ok and I went home and for the first time, didn’t really think/worry about her, in the same way I had been doing.
Around 11.20/30, I had a strong feeling about her and started to think lots about her when she was little and she was lay in my arms etc and I started to really miss her, a strong pang in my chest and I wanted to go and get her.
I picked her up as usual and her teacher said she’d been crying today as she pushed a boy and had to sit on the bench.
I chatted to her about it and she said she was hiding behind a wall most of the playtime and crying for me and she asked me why I didn’t come as she needed me so much at that time.
Playtime was the time I had the sudden missing her and strange feeling.
I realise I probably sound pretty nuts and ridiculous, but does anyone else believe in this, that we can sense maybe when something has happened to loved ones or that they need us, or am I just talking crap?

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Keyansier · 18/10/2022 19:54

Not sure if it's "talking crap" - loads of people feel like this and believe in things like intuition etc. But on the other hand, if she'd came out of school today and said she'd had the best day ever, then your 'strong feeling' wouldn't have been validated. And you can't say you wouldn't have felt the strong feeling if nothing had been wrong, because you don't know.

Mybumlooksbig · 18/10/2022 21:03

Maternal instincts.. xx

eldora · 18/10/2022 21:31

No, I don’t believe in that extra sensory stuff, though I do believe in God.

It was just a coincidence, they happen a lot.

Imissmoominmama · 18/10/2022 21:34

My adult son has epilepsy. I know when he has had a seizure because I get a really heavy sense of doom. It has always been the same.

LydiaBennetsUglyBonnet · 18/10/2022 21:35

I think we really do underestimate the power of intuition. It’s like when you wake up and know it’s going to be a horrible day then you get some bad news at 4pm. There is a lot of science behind intuition and there’s probably lots we don’t know!

AssignedSlytherinAtBirth · 18/10/2022 21:41

My DIL often has 'coincidences' with her twin sister where they are thinking of each other. I think it's perfectly possible that you were able to read your DD's mind, or rather, tune in to her distress.

Sparklybees · 18/10/2022 21:47

Yes I do believe we have extra senses that are dulled in the modern world.

My mum and I are very close and have had many times where things like this have happened, or I have known something before she has told me.

changer121 · 18/10/2022 21:47

Our dd had a serious accident abroad.
I knew something was very wrong but no one rang to tell us until that afternoon.
I just knew she was in trouble- I've never felt it before or since but I absolutely knew .
She's ok now thankfully

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Itsonlytenweeks · 18/10/2022 21:53

So strange isn’t it…

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PickAnyName · 18/10/2022 21:54

Of course you are attuned to your DD!

TheSausageKingofChicago · 18/10/2022 21:57

I had a sporting accident when I was a teenager. My mum and dad were having a coffee in the supermarket cafe, and my mum just turned to my dad and said, ‘we need to go and get Sausage now.’ My dad wanted to stay and finish his brew but my mum was having none of it.
I was being loaded into an ambulance when they arrived at the sports centre.

ThatsTheWayIHikeIt · 18/10/2022 22:04

There are more things in heaven and on earth than are dreamt of in our philosophy, to paraphrase Shakespeare.

When mine were babies I had to actively stop myself thinking about them when they were in their cot in their own room, because if I did they would wake up! It happened so often it could not be a coincidence.

I completely understand OP.

Guavafish1 · 18/10/2022 22:05

Your souls have touched

ncforyetanotherone · 18/10/2022 22:07

I often wake up and a minute or two later my daughter (also 4) starts to stir. I've always felt she senses me wake somehow!

ncforyetanotherone · 18/10/2022 22:07

(We are in different rooms of course)

DeathMetalMum · 18/10/2022 22:07

I believe we have some extra senses.

As a child a few times I had thoughts of events happening that I'd tell myself were not likely at all and then they happened withon hours.

One time I was walking home from school (pre mobile phones etc) and had a thought that there was someone visiting. This person I had met once possibly when I was a toddler and only heard about in stories, son of my mums old friend who lived other side of the country, wouldn't have known them if they walked past me down the street. They had visited that day. We didn't even have a landline growing up so I couldn't even have overhead a phone call or anything.

EthicalNonMahogany · 18/10/2022 22:12

I believe in processing what's around us using more of our sight and sound and smell and touch than we are consciously aware of.

Though I don't believe that anything 'travelled between' you and DD at playtime (because what would it be, and how would it move between you?) - I could interpret it as this foe example:-

That morning, your DD was a bit under the weather, clingy, sad or fragile. Perhaps she hugged you a tiny bit longer than usual, her heart rate was different, she smelled different because fighting off a virus. You took that information in, subconsciously, your body felt worried for her. So when she was gone you started to feel like you wanted to take care of her, you felt it in your arms etc and as a feeling of need.

At the same time, your DD wasn't feeling at her best at school, so responded more irritably than usual to annoying other children- leading to her pushing the boy and feeling out of sorts.

You both felt it, just when you were together, not at 11.30.

ParkheadParadise · 18/10/2022 22:21

I've posted about this before

The night my dd died I thought she was in our house during the night I felt her sitting on the bed.
The next morning I told DH she was in the house during the night. I had a uneasy feeling and was getting ready to go to her flat when the police arrived at our door.
I told the police she was here during the night. It wasn't until they checked CCTV they told me it wasn't possible.
I sometimes still think she was here😥😥

ncforyetanotherone · 18/10/2022 22:23

ParkheadParadise · 18/10/2022 22:21

I've posted about this before

The night my dd died I thought she was in our house during the night I felt her sitting on the bed.
The next morning I told DH she was in the house during the night. I had a uneasy feeling and was getting ready to go to her flat when the police arrived at our door.
I told the police she was here during the night. It wasn't until they checked CCTV they told me it wasn't possible.
I sometimes still think she was here😥😥

❤️

mycatisannoying · 18/10/2022 22:38

I don't mean this to sound at all flippant, but I think you had more time to think about it because you were at home.
Had you been rushing off to work, it may have been different! Smile

FlirtyMelons · 18/10/2022 22:47

I have never really believed in spiritual stuff but it has happened twice to me, not about the kids though. Once I just had a feeling DH has been knocked off his bike, it just came into my head. He had got hit, luckily only clipped when walking his bike across a crossing, he wasn't even riding it but the car didn't stop.

2nd time I woke up suddenly at 4am, phone was on silent and no vibrate so it wasn't that waking me but when I checked my phone in the morning a text had been sent at exactly the time I woke up from SIL saying she was in labour.

Many times I have been singing a song in the car and then turned the radio on to hear that song playing. Also a friend passed away when we were about 20 and 'our song' came on the radio at key times, eg the first song that came on the radio in my car after I had found out they died was our song.

The thing is that all of the above incidents could also be coincidence, as could many of the other anecdotes above.

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Itsonlytenweeks · 18/10/2022 22:55

@ParkheadParadise So sorry 😢💜

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Itsonlytenweeks · 18/10/2022 22:56

@mycatisannoying I’m at home each time and haven’t felt it that strongly or all of a sudden like that.

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FlirtyMelons · 18/10/2022 22:56

Sending lots of love ParkheadParadise Flowers

EarringsandLipstick · 18/10/2022 22:57

ParkheadParadise · 18/10/2022 22:21

I've posted about this before

The night my dd died I thought she was in our house during the night I felt her sitting on the bed.
The next morning I told DH she was in the house during the night. I had a uneasy feeling and was getting ready to go to her flat when the police arrived at our door.
I told the police she was here during the night. It wasn't until they checked CCTV they told me it wasn't possible.
I sometimes still think she was here😥😥

That's heartbreaking. I have seen your other posts & my heart breaks for you every time you mention your DD.
🌷🌷