‘We should do this more often’ ….so why don’t we?

[Iwaitalldayforbedtime]

Group of mum friends met up on Saturday, all the kids played, we had a few drinks, chatted and had dinner. It was so lovely and I feel so much better after meet ups and the other mums say the same. We all agree we need to do it more often, but then it ends up being every few months as opposed to the fortnightly or at least monthly as we all promise each other. If we all enjoy it and we need it, I believe, why can’t we get our acts together and do it more frequently?
We all have children under the age of 5

Maybe you need to be the organiser?

I always think of people wanted to or had the time then they truly would, unfortunately life and tiredness and other commitments get it the way. They probably do enjoy it but the weeks fly by when you’re busy and have young kids, especially if you work as well.

Life gets in the way.

Best thing to do is to organise a new date before you leave.

This. Aim for monthly with a break in December and August.

I found this with a group and the problem was trying to get a date we can all agree on.

The solution was a fixed date and whoever could make it, made it, whoever couldn't couldn't, but that date was always there and could be planned around.

When you say “dinner,” do you mean at a restaurant/children’s attraction, or at someone’s house? Because I can see why someone wouldn’t feel like cooking!! If it is a meet up at a restaurant, I would try and fix it for, say, the first Thursday of the month and whoever is free turns up. Probably needs someone (you!) to take charge and give everyone a list of dates and venues.

I agree with a first/ last day of the month fixed date - it is what we do for my book club that has been going strong for over 10 years. If some can’t make it, that is fine, but even if it is only 2 or 3 of us sometimes in the summer, it keeps the momentum up for a monthly meeting.

It's a nightmare planning a get-together with a group of mum friends. Firstly, because we all have busy schedules and secondly I find that everyone has to throw in their suggestions on places to go and thoughts on timings etc. It just takes an age to plan anything.

My mixed group of couple friends are much easier to bring together. I think that is partly because it is also time out with their other half.