to not let Dd have pocket money

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She’s 12 and spends it all on sweets and junk food. I think she’s overweight she have an appointment with GP if she bothers to go
I started limiting but she takes her older sisters if she gives in. She does no exercise at all and she says that ‘I can’t make her’. All she does is watches Tv and eats haribo whilst moaning about why she cant have an amazon account

aibu?

Are you giving enough pocket money so that she can actually afford to do something other than buy sweets? I remember buying a big bag of chocolate most lunchtimes at college as I didn't have the money to buy something healthier at the canteen.

This is a really good point.

Junk food is cheap, but lots of other things/activities are expensive. Lots of 12yo's don't have the self-control to save up for things they want, so go for stuff that will give immediate pleasure (eg. food and tat).

She’s not binge eating sweets, she tells me she is happy, but I really don’t know she might be hiding something. I give her £7 per week. She buys haribo starmix and strawberry laces type thing and friends buy stuff for her too

Thanks all for advice

I’ve stopped giving mine any money. He also just wastes it on sweets and shit food.

My friends used to give him pocket money too but they’ve now stopped after seeing how he wasted it.

He goes to my mum and she chucks money at him so he is still spending loads on shit food and sweets.

it really annoys me a lot!!

Try a junior couch to 5k. Running is one of those things that is so hard if you just try to do it from zero. If you build up slowly in a structured way you improve quickly. I hate running but following one of those programs really helped. Or climbing? Is she goal focussed? Gets a buzz from achieving a specific target? Climbing might help as it’s an easy thing to measure success ‘I made it up the wall’.

Can you put her pocket money in a virtual "pot" that you have access to? I bank with Starling and you can create seperate savings pots, I have one for DD and when she has done her set tasks I put £5 in her pot.

She picks something she wants to save for and then when she has enough I withdraw it and buy it for her.

@fortheloveofflowers yes my DD does that too she asks my mother for money, it’s very annoying isn’t it

I’ve booked a climbing place for the afternoon :)

Bloody hell, no wonder she eats, what with having the perfect sister, and you basically saying she’s fat. Poor kid

You sound awful and determined to make your daughter feel rubbish.

wow you're very critical of her aren't you, i don't understand why you've taken her phone presumably she's not gonna go for a jog at 7.30 at night