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Boiling

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Wat2do222 · 17/10/2022 23:30

Currently away, off season so not much doing. Thought all the disco/reps dancing stuff was off but discovered its on. Son has been looking at only our faces since Sat so we go to see what its like. 1st time we have been around groups of kids so hoping he might be able to hang out and make some friends. Husband sits there with a puss on his face and after 10 mins goes nah I'm not doing this, and says he's going. Queue us all having to trudge back to the room. So pissed off with the selfishness, can't fucking sit there for any longer than it takes to finish a drink. Btw this has happened before, leaves me on my own because he can't 'cope' with the disco/reps. AIBU to think you could just grin and bear it for your kid to have a bit of interaction?

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ellyoctober · 17/10/2022 23:31

A puss?

NewBootsAndRanty · 17/10/2022 23:32

Why did you all have to leave?

CuteCillian · 17/10/2022 23:34

Could you and your son not stay and watch the entertainment without your DH?

Passmethecrisps · 17/10/2022 23:34

Did you all need to go?

if he can’t bear reps/camp style entertainment what is the alternative?

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Wat2do222 · 17/10/2022 23:35

A puss on his face = miserable, eye rolling and no interaction

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Hibernationsetting · 17/10/2022 23:37

Boiling? Do you mean it’s too hot where you are or too angry?

either way, YABU. Reps and discos on a package holiday sound like torture to me.

oviraptor21 · 17/10/2022 23:37

Took me a while to get the gist of what you're asking but .... no yanbu. DH needs to show a bit of solidarity and help all of you to make the best of a not ideal situation.

Hibernationsetting · 17/10/2022 23:38

And if he hates that sort of entertainment then why keep going to those places?

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Wat2do222 · 17/10/2022 23:38

We could have stayed but it was the behavior acting like he was under duress just to watch a few cheesy dances. We haven't come across many kids that speak the same language as and I was really happy my son might have made a couple of mates

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oviraptor21 · 17/10/2022 23:39

I hate that sort of entertainment. But sometimes it's all you can afford or the only thing that works for your circumstances. So you put up with it for the sake of the DC.

CheezePleeze · 17/10/2022 23:40

Wat2do222 · 17/10/2022 23:38

We could have stayed but it was the behavior acting like he was under duress just to watch a few cheesy dances. We haven't come across many kids that speak the same language as and I was really happy my son might have made a couple of mates

So why didn't you stay with your DS?

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Wat2do222 · 17/10/2022 23:40

He doesn't hate it, we've done it a few times here and there over the years and I just was relieved to see a few kids having a laugh as we've not seen many families due to being 'off season' as such

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Wat2do222 · 17/10/2022 23:42

Each to their own re. entertainment style hols. I was just happy to see a few kids having fun

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Pixiedust1234 · 17/10/2022 23:43

I would have stayed with dc. Any reason you all had to go?

PinkPalaceinthesky · 17/10/2022 23:44

I'm with your DH to be fair.

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Wat2do222 · 17/10/2022 23:44

I have stayed in the past - I'm not one that's up for this kind of stuff every night, he was the one that heard the music and said let's go have a look!

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PinkPalaceinthesky · 17/10/2022 23:47

Who actually books these type of holidays?

Is it you or DH?

Passmethecrisps · 17/10/2022 23:47

As you have said - each to their own and I don’t think anyone is judging the camp entertainment. If that was what you thought you were paying up for you should have gone with it. I agree that’s It’s nice when you see the kids playing together.

if you are looking for validation of your annoyance of your DH’s behaviour then (while j suspect you are not unreasonable) you might need to share more. If you just want to vent about having to sit silently in a hotel room while the wee one sleeps then fire on. We can share classics threads?

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Wat2do222 · 17/10/2022 23:53

We decided the hol together, we usually do a mix of meals out, activities and as we are in a hotel that has this type of entertainment we might do 1 or 2 nights in the hotel. Its been harder this time as not seen many other kids the same age (mostly toddlers) my son is 12. I was just pleased to be in an area with kids around the same age so he could maybe hang out with others for a hour or 2

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Passmethecrisps · 17/10/2022 23:57

It all sounds a bit flat. What did your 12 year old want? When you posted I was imagining a small child - maybe a toddler. It doesn’t excuse the poor response to what should have been a shared decision.

hiw are things now? What is your DS doing? Was he annoyed to leave?

InCheesusWeTrust · 18/10/2022 00:00

You got plenty of alcohol in the room, eh

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Wat2do222 · 18/10/2022 00:06

Sorry should have mentioned the age for context. He was fine, happy to go back to the room. No alcohol here, both currently asleep (hour ahead) I'm just annoyed at the attitude I guess

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PinkSyCo · 18/10/2022 00:09

Your DH is a misery guts, and you are pretty selfish for not staying for your son’s sake. Poor kid.

Passmethecrisps · 18/10/2022 00:12

Chuck it in the fuck it bucket and move on. We have such high hopes for holidays when in reality they are just normal life in unfamiliar settings.

get an hour peace and a decent sleep

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Wat2do222 · 18/10/2022 00:15

@Passmethecrisps

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