To find it so annoying when Mumsnetters decide to solve all your problems …

[MrsCHeeler]

Even the ones you haven’t asked about.

You ask about recipe advice for fussy children and get told your parenting is wrong as your children are fussy.

You are struggling coordinating pickups and get told a non existent granny should do it or you should give up work. Often with a really annoying ‘job done’ at the end of the post.

Is it just me??

I adored the batshittery on that thread. Didn't realise there was an update though! Might have to hunt it down.

How's the leg?

What annoys ME are the posters who assume everyone has someone who can lend them 1000s of £££, (when they're struggling financially,) and someone who can look after their kids for 6 hours in an evening (and then overnight) while they go out on the town. Some people can't grasp the concept that some people have NO-ONE. No-one to turn to, and no-one to get money off.

I once asked for advice on a cooker as my DH and I had differing opinions and I wondered which was the better investment. (A very exciting thread!) I was advised that I was controlling, disrespectful of him and then asked what the point in my post was because I was going to overrule him anyway.

It wasn't the best cooker advice I'd ever had. 0/10.

I had one about my toddlers activities and got a pile on because I was spending too much money.

I should go to rhyme time at the library, swimming in the council pool and to free playgroup sessions.

None of which exist here but MN say they do. They apparently know better than me.

So this is what I’m talking about. Look at the first response. Poster could be a widow, dad could have no contact at all (not unusual sadly) but that poster knows best.

Agreed.

My personal favourite being the thread in Active today about the OP whose very elderly, rather frail and effectively immobile MIL wanted to move in with them, in spite of the fact that both the OP and their partner worked FT, had a lively young child, a small dog and lived in a rented house.

Clearly, the OP was looking for ways to tell the MIL that this was very definitely not happening, but the answers were:

'Can't you build a granny flat / get live-in help / install mobility aids?'

FML. People's reading comprehension is not so much poor as non-existent.

Hire a cleaner and go on a spa day. That’ll sort out your cost of living crisis.

That same thread is also a perfect example of a total derail over a minor detail. The OP’s MIL is 94 and her child is six - so rather than addressing the OP’s question, several posters have leapt in with “Your MIL is 94 but you have a six year-old?! Is there a generation missing in this story? How is this possible?!?!”

Apart from the fact that it isn’t relevant, it’s actually perfectly possible if you consider it’s the OP’s MIL rather than her mother. But still people are picking it to bits.

God, reminds me of the recent post about a DH/DD relationship that was completely derailed by the mention of the young DD having earrings.

Yes!!

”My female boss is trying to get me to work regular hours but is keeping me on a zero hours contract. What do I do?”

”You don’t have a boss problem. You have a husband problem”

😂

There's an amusing one about drying laundry - turns out people use their greenhouse, conservatory, spare rooms, or one of three bathrooms!
Yes, great laundry advice 🙄

I no longer carry the name Peg Leg Sue with my family 😂

the update was that the bride’s family had kids there anyway!! Her cousin’s kids! Even my mum was angry and my brother could literally stab a puppy to death and mum would say “He’s just misunderstood”. That tells you something. Haven’t spoken to him or SIL since.

It is a bit unusual for a 94 year old to have a 6 year old grandchild though to be fair. Unless the MIL had the son when she was 43, and the son didn't have the child til he was 46. Not impossible, but unlikely. Nevertheless, it is annoying when people try to derail a thread by trying to pick apart someone's thread, and don't even try to help.

Yes many MNers clearly done travel outside London and think everyone has easy accessible groups, public services and public transports a street away. On my Scottish Highkands thread someone remarked “There MUST be a bus to the venue” - I’ve you’ve ever been to the Highlands this is very funny to hear!

"Why don't you get a loan from your parents instead of going to a payday lender?"
" Oh my goodness,why didn't I think of that" 😖

There’s also a thread about a poor OP who feels like she will spend the rest of her life being a career as she had a DC at 21 then again at 42 and her DH fully expects them to soon move in with his parents so she can care for them in their old age.

65% responses: “Why did you have 2 children so far apart if you don’t want to care for people”. Helpful. Really helpful.

So many know it alls on here, my goodness if only life was as simple as that job done! 🤣

And no one on MN owns a tumble dryer 🤣 IRL I don’t know Anyone without one

I know - it's so weird, it's like a cardinal sin!
Using the spare bathroom and greenhouse cracked me up, though! 😂

I remember that thread. My sympathy was entirely with you. Some of the responses were serious bonkers territory, but classic MN bonkers.

👆That was a response to the people who have a problem can't see the obvious wood for the trees, as if you wouldn't have thought of that yourself .

Oh my god! I remember that one! It was insane. Suggesting that you took your husband and kids to a hotel while you went to the wedding!

Oh god yes.

The misreading of the OP. There was one this week which had several dozen posters clamouring for the OP to get a job in order to help her overworked husband, and no amount of repeating that she actually had two jobs, made any impact.

Insistence that everyone’s circumstances are the same.

The conviction that the OP is stubbornly refusing to take in ironing/rehome their chihuahua as some sort of fatal flaw that other posters must make them see sense about.

The fixation on irrelevant detail, so that the OP has to come back again and again to justify why they live in a bungalow when their stepdaughter is a school refuser or whatever, eventually gets a bit ratty, and then gets called out for being defensive.

Argh.

At the risk of sounding like the oldie I am, I do think that as the site has grown, there are more people on here who just enjoy being contrary, if not downright nasty. But a lot of it just comes from not reading the thread, like suggesting you build a granny flat onto a rented house. 😀

I was once told how inconsiderate I was because I mentioned running my washer/dryer overnight even though I live in a flat.