Will my dr judge me/ can I tell them?

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I feel suicidal about the behaviour of my neighbour, they've threatened to set our house on fir, let our tyres down, put dog shit through the letterbox because I reported to social services the fact that they left their child alone for hours at a time (6-8 ye old) we're talking leaving kids in the house to go to the pub for 5 hours a night not sending to school etc etc.

They've lost their children because of mine and other allegations, I'm already on antidepressants and i want to tell my dr tomorrow about the concerns I have that they will follow through on their threats and kill/ maim me and my child. Would they be pissed off if I said actually the suicidal thoughts and constant panic attacks are caused by my shitty neighbours, and the fact that I am the reason their children went into care.

We share a dr, I know this because I've seen them walking out of the drs, can I talk about it? Or should I be vague and say my neighbour blah blah blah... it's a very small practice they will know who my neighbour is by just looking on their system. I want my gp to make a note of everything In case he follows through is that unreasonable?

Have you reported all of this, their threats, to the police?

You can tell them everything but you don't have to name the neighbour. They're not going to put your address into Google Maps and search for other patients who live near you.

And yes, definitely report to police

Of course you can tell your doctor.

Can you arrange to move?

Tell your doctor everything. I can’t think of any reason they wouldn’t be sympathetic. They have a confidentiality rule and have probably worked out already what the other family are like, but probably can’t say anything to you about the neighbours, but do tell them everything, it’s the best way to get help.

Yes, of course you can speak to your GP. In confidence. Giving names.

But go via the police station and report your neighbours for assault, harassment and criminal damage.

Well you don't need to tell your doctor anything other than your neighbour though do you.
You don't need to name names to your doctor as they're just there to treat you.

Have you got cameras now?

I really can't imagine how you're feeling having to live next to people like that.
In reality you didn't get their children taken away from them, they did a pretty good job in doing that themselves by their actions towards them.

Whatever you say to your Dr should be confidential so don't worry to much about that, just tell them all you want to and hopefully they'll be able to advise you.

You need to be honest with your gp because this is directly affecting your health and wellbeing. Doctor won't judge you, if the doctor was aware of what was happening they'd be duty bound to make the same report to ss as you did. You need to report all threats etc to the police and to ss because that's unacceptable. I don't know what your housing situation is but if they are tenants of social housing you could report them to their housing officer, if they are in a private rental you can contact the landlord through the council as they'd be in breach of their contract. Much harder if you both own your homes, though you might have grounds to go through environmental health as well. I'd invest in a door camera that captures anyone coming onto your property and keep a diary of every incident and log it with police as it will serve as evidence of harassment. I'm sure having their kids removed has been horrendous for them it's every parents worst nightmare, but ss won't have done it on one allegation you made, there's obviously been concerns raised or evidence found when the sw attended the house. Unfortunately you're just nearby to be on the receiving end of their anger.

You're doctor will be sympathetic to this and will probably also urge you to speak to the police and will also have a list of other support groups that may be able to help you. Definitely tell her/him.

You are very brave to report them, thank you on behalf of the children.

Tell your Dr everything, it's in full confidence. IF anything happened, then you have a paper trail/written record at least.
You must report the threats to the Police also. Even if you don't have any evidence, again, it's a paper trail.
You absolutely did the right thing. The neighbours would have been investigated and found to be wanting, hence the removal of the children. You didn't make them lose their children, they did. Perhaps you could also report the threats to SS and housing authority.

Talk to your GP. I'd also suggest you consider reporting to the police for stalking involving fear of violence/serious alarm or distress (a more serious charge than harassment). You could call one of the stalking helplines for advice e.g. Suzy Lamplugh or paladin. If you can afford it, get a ring/blink/whatever video doorbell.

Thanks, I fell asleep. I will be talking to my dr about the reason why I'm
So depressed. It might help

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@Randomword6 has succinctly said what I was going to say, (as an ex social worker).
Whatever happens, you did the right thing. Very much so. Not everybody would, or does, as we know, and child abuse/neglect is a very complex issue. I too would like to thank you wholeheartedly on behalf of those children. Please try and hold onto that - who knows how bad things would have got if you, and others, hadn't stepped up?
So, to you x

Oh thank you! I couldn't possibly have left them without reporting anything.

It's time for me to access some support though I think. Thank you

You aren't the reason they lost their children. They lost their children because they neglected and endangered them.

Social services don't just take them because they've done something wrong, they work with the family to change things and bring their parenting up to standard. They give more chances than most people deserve.

You're seeing the tip of the iceberg here, it's not just because of neighbours saying the kids were left alone.

Why aren't you talking to the police about this?

Thank you for reporting them to social services and well done for asking for help. They're two massive things.