Being validated by a man

[Neggymumum]

My husband of thirty years basically told me that I am a waste of space tonight, I agree, I don't have children or a job ,can't say what will keep Me from chucking myself in the river like my uncle , he's right

He is the waste of space. Get out.

What does this paragon of virtue bring to the table himself?
What would you like to do, and is there a reason why you're not already doing it?

There's a hell of a lot more to life than children and a job.

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I wish there was, but I am 55 years old, and there's no way forward. I wish I had been more forward when I was younger. It's only now that I can see my husband is a cunt and it's too late

Thanks Mumsnet very good and grateful for your care xx responsible too xx

You are only 55 so still chances to do lots of things. What do you enjoy? What do you think you might enjoy?

Lots of people don’t have children and a job doesn’t define you. You are absolutely not a @Neggymumum. Not at all.

Thanks kind people, honestly feeling very low xx

You need to get urgent help for your mental health. Call the Samaritans. Get to see your GP. Get to a place of safety away from this man who is eroding your self-esteem.

I've called Samaritans , it's very generic advice I think unless you have someone in real life to help you you're on your own he knows this . It's what makes him even more of a twat

You don’t have to stay with him. And even if you may have wanted kids at some point in your life, they’re not the only things in life & him rubbing your face in that is just really unkind.
Wonder what amazing things he brings to the table?
You don’t have to stay with him. He’s the waste of space not you 💐