Our toddler (2.5) is at nursery half the week, the rest of the time he’s at home. We’ve had a couple of days off recently and have spent a lot of time with him, doing various family activities etc, which has been lovely.
However, when we get home the problems start. After having dinner together at 6.30ish I’m perfectly happy to stick DS in the lounge in front of the TV for 30-45 mins while I do the washing up, quick hoover round, other chores or just decompress with a cuppa or glass of wine in the kitchen. He is perfectly happy watching telly and knows exactly where to find me if he needs anything - he’ll regularly come running into the kitchen asking for snacks or water or whatever else if he wants it. We live in a small house so I’m not exactly far away!
DH has suddenly started making this into a big issue, saying it’s not right that I “don't want to spend time with my son” and that it’s “not what he’d expect of a normal mother/child relationship”. I’ve explained that I’m with our son for many hours in the day and that I need a bit of “me time” to relax. He’s turned it into a massive argument two nights on the trot now and has literally just stormed upstairs to bed after I said I completely disagree and our son is perfectly capable of being on his own for a short while. DH does tend to sit with him more than me, but is always on his phone and DS will regularly have to ask him several times to get his attention as DH is so absorbed in his phone.
Who is being unreasonable?