Bullying, what should I do?

[Jennybeans401]

Dd is in Y5. The same girl has been bullying her since January. It's a long story but I've been into school,spoke to class teachers, head, phoned. I've tried everything.

It's a tiny class with four girls and the girl who has been bullying dd has turned the girls against dd. A new girl joined in June and this helped as dd made friends with her. Last week the new girl has sided with the bully. There's been physical bullying but mostly emotional bullying. Whispering about dd in front of her, excluding her, making fun of her, running away from her, calling me names and telling dd she is stupid, laughing when she gets a bad score in Maths or Spelling. She's been excluded from playing because she has no father by this girl which was a low blow.

The school say they've tried everything but in my eyes they've done very little. They rang the other girls parents once and interviewed the girls once. The bully denies it all. I spoke to the head recently and her advice was that I ring the other girl's parents up and discuss it. The school say there's no proof so they can't do anything more to help us. The school haven't even logged it as bullying at all. They also encouraged us to move schools as they can't see how it will get better for dd.

My dd enjoys her lessons, is settled at that school and I feel upset at her leaving. She's terrified to go back there though. AIBU to feel this is so unjust?

That's not settled. You need to move her ASAP. Poor, poor girl.

Apologies, I see you've taken her out now.

Good call. The one parenting mistake our parents made was not removing my sister from this identical scenario. Years of misery. Honestly avoid these tiny schools esp for girls. I sent mine to the biggest primary I could find. Then in this scenario you just move on to other friends.

Thank you, I do feel bullied too by the school. It's been a long time and there's been no real help to get anything resolved.

I've suffered stress, anxiety and insomnia along with dd and I feel its so wrong to be treated like this. Years ago I was in an abusive relationship and this has brought back those feelings I had of helplessness and fear.

I'm glad you've taken her out. This sort of thing makes my blood boil, the teachers should be ashamed of themselves, they are meant to safeguard our children and the fact that they don't makes them totally unsuitable for the job.

When dd started at the school there were only 2 other girls in her class (they are a mixed class but the children seem to play in their year groups).

Although three extra girls joined at various stages it still wasn't enough of a mix. Plus there are 2 strong dominating girls in there who seemed to control everything.

We are surrounded by these tiny faith schools unfortunately. There are few large schools with places.